Monday, November 29, 2021

hOLiDaY HeLp

Do you feel like an island with the busy crowds of busy people swirling all around you? I recently came across a blog by a younger widow, Clarissa Moll. She's a great writer, and I think you'll really appreciate her most recent post: Celebrating the Holidays with Grief.  Click to it to visit her blog and read it, it's so helpful. 

Also, here is a short video from GriefShare about attending parties and accepting invitations. If it does not show up in your email, simply click on hOLiDaY HeLp and you will see it on the blog site. Also use the blog site Bookstore tab if you need to order my book---tomorrow is the last day this year that I can fulfill orders since I'm packing up and moving in December. Please accept my apologies, I will be absent most of December because of moving. I'll be praying for you though, and I hope you'll pray for me. Feel free to email me at, and I will reply as soon as I am able. Until I am back online, may you hold tight to God. Never forget what he's promised over and over, and how the coming Christmas season helps us to remember it:

“Never will I leave you;
    never will I forsake you.”

Christmas Love & Blessings to you,
๐Ÿ’— ferree

Don't forget! Tomorrow (Nov. 30) is the last
day to order my book this year. I don't sell it
on Amazon (they charge too much),
but you can get the audio version on Audible
anytime, anywhere.  

Friday, November 19, 2021

If You Are Lonely

"If you are lonely, seemingly without meaningful occupation, the best advice I can give you is to volunteer at least part of your time. It is a tremendously rewarding experience. For someone who has been left alone, breaking away from your house, your worries, your self-absorption is absolutely vital. Doing something beneficial for someone else will be even more beneficial for you. The first steps may not be easy, but it is well worth making the effort to find your niche." (Italics added). 

"From Grief to Gladness -- Coming Back from Widowhood," by Jane Griz Jones, page 49. 

Unfortunately this book is out of print, but you might still find copies at online used book sellers or a library. The copy I'm reading is borrowed from my church library. I don't usually pull a quote to post on this blog, but felt God wanted me to today. Are you the one He is speaking to about volunteering? A comment about your experiences might be a great help for others! Email me at or click on the Post A Comment box and add your thoughts. (If you receive this in your email and want to comment, you'll need to get to the blog by clicking the title at the top). 

Have a beautiful and sacred weekend,


Sunday, November 14, 2021

MOVING! In Less Than A Month!

If you've read my book, Postcards from the Widows' Path, you might recall toward the last chapter how I got caught standing in a rainbow, and then viewed it beaming across Lake George in Ticonderoga, New York. I never dreamed that I'd return to the area to live... but I will!

In less than a month! We finally found a house to buy! God provided in spite of my doubts. No wonder I haven't sent out a blog post lately. I apologize, but I know you will all understand. And I thank you sooo much for praying for me, and those who've sent sweet and hope-filled notes. Truly, you carried me through some rough days this year! It was exactly one year ago that my husband, Tom, and I bought this house in North Augusta, SC. Our closing date was Nov. 10th if I remember correctly. But we hardly got settled when he was once again out of work. Our future, like so many of my widowed friends, (and Tom and I were both widowed too) was a blank slate. A scary blank slate. 

But you stuck with me, and I will stick with you. I will have to go silent during the month of December until the computer is unpacked and set up. And I won't be able to sell any books in December because I need to do some business paperwork. 

However, if you need some copies of my book, now is the time! I have less than 100 left. I won't order another printing until January, so if you will need any for Christmas gifts, compassion to a widow friend, or for a group that hopes to start after the new year, please order them right away. I will not be able to take any orders after November 30th. 

Ordering is very easy, just click on my Bookstore at the top of this blog. If you receive this post in your email though, you'll need to get to the blog itself. That's easy too! Just click the title in your email---MOVING! In Less Than A Month!

If you'd like the book to be shipped directly to someone, either enter their address with the Paypal order or email it to me at I can enclose a gift card--please tell me how you want it signed. I'm sorry I cannot giftwrap. 

It's another adventure (I've reminded the Lord I've had more than enough, haven't you too?) but His plans are so much better than our own, and I'm learning that He always works things out for our good and His glory---which is also for our good! A double helping of goodness!  

1 Corinthians 2:9 But as it is written:
“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.”

Happy Thanksgiving!
๐Ÿ’— ferree

Monday, October 25, 2021

A Widows Conference on Saturday, Nov. 6: You Can Attend from Anywhere!

Gather your widow friends together on November 6th to enjoy this year's Widows Link Virtual Conference.

  • At 12:00 noon, Central Standard time
  • 1:00 pm Eastern
  • 11:00 am Mountain
  • 10:00 am Pacific

The perfect time of day for a brown bag or carry-in lunch or brunch idea! ๐Ÿ˜‹

The keynote speaker is Jennifer Sands, a 9/11 widow. It will be a wonderful, uplifting time for the ladies. Go to the website to get more information and for a "Launch Kit" which helps in hosting the conference.

Here's some info about Widows Link from their website:

Widows Link is a ministry that helps widows connect with each other, discover the love God has for them, and empower them to fulfill the plan God has for their life. Widowhood is only the next step in the plan God has for a widow and we are here to help widows live life fully in this season of their lives. Here you can find ways to connect with us and others, resources to walk out this season of life, and events that will make an impact on your future.

Tuesday, October 19, 2021

For Widows Groups---Now What?

Hello everyone! 

A newly formed widows group asked me for suggestions on what they should do after they finish going through my book, Postcards from the Widows' Path. They're finishing up this week, and with the holidays coming --- well, it just doesn't seem right to end yet. 

All groups will eventually end, no matter what kind they are, but for widows it's a great encouragement and comfort to meet through Thanksgiving, Christmas and the New Year. Yet, it's an extra busy time too, so what are some options?

Let's brainstorm: 

Keep meeting once a week. 

1). You could go through the book, "The Empty Chair--Handling Grief on Holidays and Special Occasions," by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert C. DeVries. It has 5 short chapters---perfect to fit in with some breaks for the holidays. 

2).Or you could meet more informally. Base discussions on any of these g r e a t ideas!

  • hearing each others' stories
  • Read aloud and discuss short articles or blog posts for widows. 
  • Or have everyone write out some questions about widowhood. Put them in a jar and draw one or two at random to discuss each week. 

Meet for special events.

1). Planning a Christmas party is great fun. Ask for a volunteer to host it in her home. (Homes are so cozy and wonderful for true fellowship!) Everyone bring a favorite food to share for the meal. Or if you don't want a whole meal, do a Cookie Exchange or just appetizers or dessert. Set a dollar limit on the gift exchange if you have one, or do an ornament exchange instead. 

2). Attend an event or two together. Here are some ideas:

  • A church Christmas concert
  • Christmas light show or live nativity
  • Surviving The Holidays by GriefShare. See if a local church will be hosting this wonderful outreach: Just type your zip code in the search box on this website:

3). Help out as a group (or just 2 or 3 of you) at a mission or soup kitchen. Going together will be far better than spending the day alone. 

4). Go to a movie or host a movie night in your own home. If you pop your popcorn the old-fashioned way use lower heat and coconut oil---yum!!! (Google for a recipe).  

5). Help each other decorate (for those who want to), some of widows are lucky to have enough desire to plus in the lights for a table-top tree; others find comfort in keeping their traditions---there's no right or wrong way. Maybe have an un-decorating party too! That's a hurdle for many! I powered through my first few Christmases, but wanted to skip it entirely for several years! (I finally did, and it helped a lot, but that's just me. Everyone is different).

Well, I hope these ideas have gotten you all to thinking. What ideas would you suggest? What will you do with the holidays at your house this year? Please be especially sensitive to new widows in your area. Pray for them and reach out to them as God leads you. Holidays can be really hard, but they can also be poignant, sacred, and breathtakingly beautiful.

God Bless You One & All! ❤

Sunday, October 17, 2021

Is It Time to Call for Some Help?

Hi everyone, 

Do you keep hitting a brick wall when you try to move forward into the next chapter of life--you don’t even know where to start, you feel lost, full of doubt and worries, yet you KNOW that God has a purpose for you? Or do you feel defeated by the same old, same old all the time---losing some weight, getting ready for Christmas, balancing life and work, getting organized…? Maybe we should talk. You know I've been widowed, and you know that no one understands a widow like someone who's been there. Yet there's more....

I’m in coach training! After a stress-filled summer, (I still haven't been able to move to NY where my husband is working), the Lord gave me this opportunity. This kind of coaching is perfectly described in Proverbs 20:5---I'm trained to draw out the purposes and motives, the God-given dreams and desires of a person's heart, to help them get on the path to fulfilling them by God's grace.

The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters,
    but one who has insight draws them out.

It’s been intense, tho! Right now I’m entering an internship. So I am looking for a widow interested in devoting 5 weeks to focus on rebuilding her life---finding the answers to some of the struggles...finding

that fulfillment. We would meet online or in person once a week between Nov. 5th - Dec. 15th. 


Please email me and briefly tell me about a goal you might like to work on. From there, I will contact 3-4 of you for a free consultation. You’ll get to know more about it, and I can answer your questions. 

I can only gift one free 5-coaching sessions package, but I’ll offer the other 2-3 of you an amazing discount on a coaching journey after my graduation.

Why not give it a try? Pray about it, OK? This is really an amazing opportunity. Just contact me at with a sentence or two of a goal you’d like to reach before Christmas. 

We’d meet via video chat (like Zoom or Duo) so be sure you have a computer or phone with a camera. And it’d be once a week for an hour, from around Nov. 5 - Dec. 15th. 

Is it time for you to call for some help? I hope to hear from you! ❤ ferree