Sunday, October 16, 2016

Just A Quick Note...

What a week! Last weekend I got to experience a hurricane! I'm glad it was only a category 1 by the time it got to me here in South Carolina. Our governor and weather forecasters did a wonderful job of preparing and warning everyone. Hurricane Matthew did not heed their predictions though and landfall was much closer to my area than anticipated. Fortunately my house and property didn't get any damage. Our power went out last Saturday morning. Tom hooked up a generator to help our refrigerator hobble along. Turning on the generator for 3 hours in the morning and 3 hours before bedtime kept our food cold enough in the frig, and frozen in the freezer. Dining by candlelight on cold food was far from romantic so I was very grateful when the power came back on 6 days later.

We're still waiting for our Internet connection to be restored, so until then my online presence will be spotty. Isn't is good that the Lord's power is more reliable than our own? Please keep praying for all who were affected by this storm, especially for widows.

love to you,

Saturday, October 1, 2016

Memorial Wall for October 2016

Here's the October listing copied from the Memorial Wall here at Widows Christian Place. Each tribute has touched my heart today--each one tells of a sacred life and people who loved each other. It's a long list this month, but that's because this memorial means so much to more and more widows who find this site every day.
I hope you'll copy it and refer to it throughout the month to pray for everyone. If you'd like to add your own tribute to the Memorial Wall, please follow the directions mentioned here. I'd be honored to add your precious memory.


10/01/2012 * Gareth * Clare (lung cancer/ stroke) * We’d just moved to start a new life, Clare had a “chest infection” turned out to be pleurisy (turned out to be lung cancer). Until the week before she died we expected her to get better but then she had a stroke. The last week was absolutely amazing (the family worshipped and prayed together at 3pm everyday) (but I wish we could have talked to each other). Clare died at the end of our singing “Jesus we celebrate your Victory” but my life has been blown out of the water * Aberystwyth, Mid Wales
10/02/2015 * Maria * Dave, heart attack * Lydia, 30, and Bethany, 29 * My husband and best friend passed away suddenly from a heart attack at 56. We were married for 34 years, and he was a pastor for 24 years. He loved people fiercely and unconditionally. He was a wonderful, godly father to our two daughters, and he delighted in his grandson (born and died on Sept. 10, 2012) and his granddaughter, Hazel (born May 6, 2014). He loved carrying Hazel around and showing her off to everyone and anyone. Thank you, Lord, that you put this man in my life. He was like King David, a man after Your Own Heart. * Ohio
10/03/2011 * Sandi * Roger my 'One True Love' the Lord so graciously chose & blessed me with. *  Jessica 34, Jeremy 33, & our grandkids Levi 13, Ali 10, Alicia 10, Austin 5 & Jackson 3. * He had colon cancer and filled up with blood clots. Roger said "Don't keep me alive."  He knew where he was going, Heaven.  He was in such excruciating pain. He was tired of fighting.  He slept quite a bit the last 2 to 3 years.  Little did we realize God was slowly taking him away from us.  Otherwise I would have fell apart.  We were closer than sardines (for a lack of a better word)  So close. It was easy to let him go after witnessing all his agony.  We asked him several times between me and the nurses, "Are you sure Roger??"  Two hrs. later he slipped away into the promised land Heaven our 'Home Sweet Home'.  He said "Sorry, I'm sorry."  "That's alright Rog" I comforted him. * He was a Monumental man, a walking Angel, a gentle giant, soft spoken.  A Great Man.  Many men I have observed but he surpasses most of them.  He was a strong hard working man, a man of integrity & great character,  I was so proud of.  If anyone knew him it made me proud.  He was a stable man.  The man of my dreams.  I miss being told "Your Beautiful, your Special."  He made me feel like a million bucks even more than that.  I miss that.  He was my Dream come true.  He was a greater man than I even realized, at his wake there was a line over four hrs. long!!  That's my man!!  A Christian man was he.  He was 59.  The Best is before me not behind me.  The Best is yet to come, in Heaven!! Our kisses & hugs will continue on the other side. *  Upper Wisconsin
10/05/2013 * Donna * Jim passed away 3 years ago from heart problems. * This was our second marriage for both of us and we were going to celebrate our 40th anniversary, but the Lord Jesus decided to call him home. Looking forward to that day we will be together again in Heaven!
10/05/2011 * Donna * Raymond- suicide *  Renee 17 years old; Isaac 13 years old * Psalm 4:8 In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, LORD, make me dwell in safety. * Your pain and suffering is over now, my love; rest in the presence of our Lord until we meet again. Thank you for the 19 years of marriage and two incredible children you gave me. You are always in our hearts. * Ohio
10/10/2012 * Soledad (Soli) * David M Serrato, age 64, passed away at almost the midnight hour. * I was there at ICU with him till the end. He loved me soo much and I love him soo much still now.  He contracted West Nile virus in the worst outbreak in US history; he fought for 3 months and 5 days till he went with God to Heaven. My husband used to pray over me when I would sleep. Because he was older than me, he knew he could go before me. He would tell me how he prayed to God for years, asking for permission to be my Guardian Angel when/if he passed before me. He taught me to learn to like myself, to be strong and to trust in God. He always told me this: "Jesus is the Lord of Lords and the King of Kings and one day every knee shall bow and every tongue confess He is Lord...." God joined our prayers together, we met, and we became a family for almost 12 yrs. I feel lost without him, I thought he was MY assignment to take care of for the rest of my life, but now I feel lost, hurt, abandoned by God some times even. * Central Texas
10/13/2010 * Glenda * Jim- He died suddenly from a heart attack while playing golf. It was a beautiful, sunny day and he made his putt and then just fell over. * Our sons: Crawford and Glenn * Jim was a quiet and kind man who made each day special and fun. We met in college in 1959 and were about to celebrate our 50th anniversary. His deep faith brings peace to my heart. 
10/15/ 2014 * Suzanne * Graham -- brain cancer * No children, unfortunately (we were too late out the starting gate!) * I am so grateful for the 20 years that God gave us. I love you so much & always will. I know you're enjoying Heaven & I don't begrudge that. I will be with you some day. * New Jersey
10/15/2010 * Doris * Frank died at age 76 of metastasized lung cancer six weeks after diagnosis, the shortest six weeks of my life. Stomach cancer had spread and filled his lungs and liver and we never knew it; occasionally he would say, “I don’t feel good today,” but it never stopped him from his work. *  Frank had a daughter, Debbie who was 53, from a first marriage of 21 years; I had 2 sons from a first marriage of 18 years, Mark was 46, and Michael who was killed in an auto accident in 2000 at age 34. * Frank and I were married for 32 years. He was the hardest working man I’ve ever known, a Supervisor in the Heavy Machine Shop at Newport News Shipbuilding, had a part-time tree business for 35 years and he did the climbing – his last tree was six weeks before he died. He was known as Mr. Fix-It and helped anybody who needed him. Frank was a “man’s man,” hunted, fished and he left a big empty hole in many lives. I so miss his arms around me and the strength of his presence. I was blessed to be married to Frank. * Yorktown, Virginia.
10/16/2011 * Lisa * Bill. He went home to be with our Lord and Savior on Sunday, October 16, 2011. He died from a very rare form of thyroid cancer. * At the time of his death, our sons Kyle was 15 and Randy 12. * Our love and faith in God is the only thing that has gotten us through. We were married for 16 years and I have been with him for more than half of my life. I miss him terribly! *
10/16/1999 * Catherine * Sid, hepatitis C * son Ben - 36 years old - died of cancer in February, 1993. He was a wonderful young man, loved music. * I still miss my two men, even after all this time, but I
lead a support group at my church and it helps me to help others.
10/20/2009Donna * Robert [Bob] - Bob was killed in a logging accident on our farm. He was 53* Gabriel Robert, age 10 * Missouri.
10/21/11 * Amanda * Wade...sudden massive heart attack. * Our children...Misty (28), Katie (26), Bethany (24) * We were married for 31 years and not a day goes by that I don't miss him. He was amazing! * Louisiana
10/22/15 Mary * Douglas P. Gleason * Baby you are now with my angel Laura. You are both missed every time my heart beats. My heart is shattered in a million pieces. As you would tell me, “I love you bunches and bunches until eternity.” * Pike Creek Highway, Texas
10/22/2014 * Beth * Douglas (50) pancreatic cancer * 3 sons Alex (18), Nick (16), and Zach (13). *  Doug pastored a church and was working hard at his CPE credits working towards his goal of chaplaincy. He was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer 10 months before his death. We were married for 22 years and he loved his boys dearly. We all miss him dearly.
10/23/13 * Shauna Pendleton * Gary Pendleton, toxic mega-colon * Frank (18) * We were high school sweethearts married for 22 years. We had just begun our 2nd honeymoon (empty nest). The grief is beyond painful. He was the most amazing man with a heart of gold and a sense of humor that could make anyone laugh. TX
10/23/12 * Trudie * Alan Sandberg died due to motorcycle accident. * Three grown children, 5 grandchildren. *   Alan was the sweetest and most compassionate man I've ever known. God's servant, he had a servants heart. He loved me as though there was no tomorrow and our children were precious to him. I will love and miss him forever.
10/24/2010 * Jenn * Jonathan, at age 38. * Shannon 14, Gabriel, 2 * He's finally free! Experiencing the fullness of God he failed to fully know on earth. Despite all his struggles, I truly loved him.
10/25/2010 * Karen * Mark, 51 - Complications from MS, kidney, heart and weakened immune system. * Katie 24, Kerrygan 22, Tom 20 * We miss him as he was taken away from us too young.
10/26/2014 * Carla Maxwell * James Maxwell, died from a brain aneurism at age of 48 * Jessica 25, Courtney 22, Bobby 20, Carl 16, JR 14 and Two Grandsons - Trace 3, Tucker 9 months * Jim was my life, my Everything, my Best Friend. I will forever miss him and long to see him in Heaven. Greatest Dad and Husband; we couldn't ever have asked for more. Greensboro, NC
10/26/2010 * Kathleen * Wayne * Sepsis * David 25, currently lives with me; Jon 22, (engaged to Holly) lives with me * Recently started to volunteer with Indiana Organ Donation Organization (IOPO) Wayne received the gift of life: a Heart Transplant.  He was able to live an additional 13 years, to see his sons grow up. We live in Northern Indiana
10/28/2012 * Gertrude * William Henry, lung cancer
10/29/2013 * Lynda Slattery * Michael Slattery, cancer * Marianne (19), Jonathan (16), Rebekah (13) * Mike and I had a happy and healthy relationship. We have been blessed by so many friends and family members who helped us through Mike's year and half battle with cancer, his passing and funeral, and now through this first year full of firsts to get through. I'm praying for patience and guidance for whatever the future holds for us. * Greenville, SC
10/29/2011 * Tanya * Jim, heart attack * Ashley 21 years old-Niccole 19 years old-Trisha 12 years old. * My husband was such a blessing to me and we miss him every second of the days. He had brought so much joy to our lives. I look very forward to being him in Heaven with him one day. We are doing the best we can to create a new norm to our life. * Washington
10/31/2009 * Catherine * Jimmy-pneumonia secondary to H1N1 (44 years old) *Joe (20), Jason(15), and Susanna, (5) * There are no words

Saturday, September 17, 2016

"September" by Kathy

Drink in the moment ... be sure to slowly swallow the memory to make it last ... pause and praise the Lord for the shared time with your loved one.
I had not anticipated the landslide of emotions that I would have to tread through upon the arrival of 1 September ..... but this beautiful autumn month is chocked full of moments that are etched in my heart's memory. First date - first time attending church together - hikes - creek walks - car shows - leaf pile jumping - football games - celebration of a new Marine graduated from boot camp ...... and a wedding.

Whispers of time swirl around me and for a moment I catch a misty glance into a gift of time from the past. Be sure to gather those - for you just never know .... "poof" .... and now it is a memory .....

Photo and thoughts by Kathy Hontz, used by permission.

Thank you for your prayers

Tom came home from the hospital on Monday, August 29 and we are so grateful he is doing really well! He's still at home, still has bones to mend and sprained muscles to heal. His "road rash" was relatively light. His helmet and motorcycle fared better than he did but they show where his injuries could have been far worse. He's still in a lot of pain, but is getting better every day. Last night he (we) both almost slept through the night. Getting a good night's sleep will be a major milestone!

We've received such lovely cards and comments and they've been so uplifting and precious. Thank you very much! Thank you for praying, and please continue. I started back to my regular hours at the school library last week, but I still want to devote necessary time to Tom. And of course I want to be back in touch with you too, so please pray that I can find a good, reasonable and workable balance. In the meantime my posts here will continue to be rather sporadic, but I know you'll all understand.

Love to you,