Monday, December 11, 2017

Sweet Christmas Ideas

On Saturday I had the privilege of joining these ladies
for their first Christmas lunch together. From left to right, starting in the back row are
Mindy, Wanda, Sissy, Andrea, Priscilla, me and Marilyn. All of them but Mindy went through my book
"Postcards from the Widows Path" last winter and they've been getting together about once a month ever since.
Mindy, on the other hand, is a Facebook friend of mine and made a special trip from NC to join us. And last but not least was Pam, who took this picture and prefers to hide behind the camera!
I hope you have widow friends to get together with over Christmas. Our conversation around the table was precious and full of hope!! If you don't yet have a widows group, pray and ask the Lord to help you start one in 2019. It's one of the most effective ways to grow through your grief.

And for any time you need a super-quick, super-great Christmas take-along, try these turtle candies.   

Here's all it takes: 1 small pretzel + 1 Rolo candy + 1 pecan half    

Here's all you do: 

  • Line a baking sheet with foil or parchment paper. 
  • Preheat oven to 300 degrees. 
  • Lay pretzels on baking sheet. 
  • Place a Rolo on top of each pretzel and bake for 4 minutes. 
  • Place a pecan half on top of the Rolo and smoosh it down (my favorite part, besides eating them). 
  • Let the chocolate harden back up and try not to eat too many!  

Sometimes starting to bake or make things for others is a helpful way to work out those blah- can't- wait- to- get- this- day- over- and- done- with feelings.

Hang in there, and if you're having a hard time today, talk about it with the friends who understand in our Facebook group called "Lifeboat." Lifeboat is a private group--only members I add can find it. If you'd like to join in, please send me (Ferree Hardy) a friend request on Facebook and a message that says "Lifeboat." I'll accept your request and add you in as soon as I can. 
Sorry, gentlemen, Lifeboat is for women only.
♥ ferree

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Memorial Christmas Ornament #3

Good evening Ferree!!

This is an ornament I had made for us and a couple of family members the Christmas after Kirk passed away. We just love it and it’s one of the first to be hung on our tree.

I ordered them off of I just picked a photo that I liked and was able to design it myself. It’s one of a couple that I made and a couple of family members had others made. They are all special.

Thank you!! Merry Christmas and Happy 2018!!

Angela Key
Hello Angela! This is a forever ornament and even though you'll never forget I'm sure that hanging it up each year makes it even more precious. Thank you so much for sharing it with me today!  - Ferree

P.S. Would anyone else like to share your ornament with the other readers on this blog? Just email a photo and your comment to me at Thank you!

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

A Widow's Handcrafted Ornament

Dear Readers,
I was so pleased to see a photo of this wonderful ornament in my email yesterday. Turns out it was an anniversary date for the sender, which touched my heart. Read on to find out how Angela made this and her special Christmas wishes for everyone.
Angela, thank you for sending me this, it's just beautiful! You put a lot of thought, skill and love into making it and I know that friends here will want to use your idea to create this heirloom for themselves. 
I look forward to posting another ornament tomorrow too! Maybe we'll even get to see yours---just email me the photo and what you'd like to say        ~Ferree

This will be my 3rd Christmas without my love, but yesterday was the 2nd anniversary of his death. Here is an Ornament I made for myself and my children. I got the bulbs from the craft store, rubbed a little glue and dropped some glitter in there. Used a piece of my husband’s t-shirt and ironed on his picture and a scripture that comforted me along with his name and dates he was here on earth.

I also bought some tiny vials and put some of his ashes in them so everyone would have a part of him forever. I hope this gives someone else some ideas for keepsakes.

Merry Christmas all. Remember we are celebrating because of what God did for us, and because of the precious gift of his Son we can be comforted knowing our husbands are in paradise with our Lord. We are also comforted by the knowledge that Jesus will never leave us in this state of grief alone. He never leaves us or forsakes us. I pray that all the widows find comfort in Him this Christmas season. - Angela

Monday, December 4, 2017

A Little Bit of Heaven

My friend Ann posted this on Facebook and I thought you'd love it as much as I do. And I never realized you can order these types of Christmas tree ornaments! Isn't this one pretty? She doesn't recall where she got it from but says that there are many places that offer them online.
I'd love to see other ornaments like this one. If you have a photo I could share with everyone please email it to me at or send it to me on Facebook.
A big shout of THANK YOU to Ann for her thoughts today!

For the first time in 37 years I almost did not put my Christmas tree up. 

Thanksgiving weekend was always the time we did this as a family. This year I had company (very welcome company but we were busy) for 10 days over thanksgiving and now into December work and other schedules are taking over. However Buddy (the dog) made sure I still got up before 5am today and got the tree done. 

It is hard to realize this is the 5th Christmas season without Mike physically here but an ornament I had made that first Christmas "alone" was a special find today. 

Christmas also reminds me I am not alone, you are not alone. Emmanuel, God with us, is our comfort and HOPE each day. 

May God bless each of you at this special time of year.

 - Ann

Monday, November 27, 2017

Almost Done! -- What A Gift!

I am so proud of all who have kept up with this One-Year Bible Reading Plan for Widows!

This is the final month. Day by day, one step at a time, we will have read through the entire New Testament, most of the Psalms, Proverbs, and Ruth by Dec. 30. It's a great gift with more-than-we-can-imagine rewards. I congratulate you!

So-- finish well! This month we'll revisit the Christmas story of Jesus' birth and life through the eyes of Luke. We'll finish Psalm 119 which has girded us with the pre-eminence of God's Word as our truth standard.

The Psalm express corresponding inner emotional struggles, like how Jesus might have felt on the cross, or step of faith when the widow gave all she had in Luke 21. God doesn't leave us in a vacuum, He knows our hurts and challenges, our cries, screams, and low groaning. He won't leave us or forsake us. 

God bless you in your daily Bible readings for December,
December 2017



Ps 119:
Luke 1
Luke 2
Luke 3
Luke 4
Luke 5
Luke 6
Luke 7
Psalm 6
Luke 8
Luke 9
Luke 10
Luke 11
Luke 12
Luke 13
Luke 14
Luke 15
Luke 16
Luke 17
Luke 18
Luke 19
Luke 20
Lk. 21:
Ps. 142-143
Luke 21:
Luke 22
56, 57
Luke 23
52, 53
Luke 24
Ps. 150

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

A Pilgrim Widow: Elizabeth Warren

I've posted this previously, but looking back on history always helps me put life in perspective, and gives me a lot to be thankful for.

Can you imagine crossing the Atlantic in a hand-built wooden sailing schooner without bathrooms, electricity, heat or running water? Did I mention you have five daughters in tow, and you're going from England to America to meet your husband who sailed there three years previous on the Mayflower?

Did I mention the year is 1623?

This was the life of Elizabeth Warren. Kind of makes you glad you're you, doesn't it?

When Elizabeth arrived in Plymouth, her husband, Richard Warren was waiting for her. He hadn't died yet. That would happen in 1628, after the birth of their two sons. Did I mention there were no hospitals or anesthesia or Lamaze classes, and she had 7 children in all?

Hardly anything is known about the women of Plymouth, and even less about the widows among them. But Elizabeth, who lived well into her 90's, over 45 years without Richard, broke through the social conventions of the 17th century and lived out her life in goodness and victory.
"A woman of valor, who can find? Far beyond pearls is her value…
Give her the fruit of her hands, and she will be praised at the gates by her very own deeds."
Proverbs 31:10
Have a blessed Thanksgiving Day, and live each day to its fullest for the Lord.