Sunday, February 19, 2017

Best Price of the Year On My Book "Postcards from the Widows' Path"

Don't you love a sale? Especially in February when you need something to shake the cabin fever, winter chill, and lonely nights? My annual book sale of Postcards from the Widows' Path is just the thing.

This book touched my heart at a time when it was hurting so much. I have read and re-read this book and still get so much insight each time I read it. it gives me hope that even in the deepest hours that not only God loves and cares for me but also other widows walk beside me in this journey. thank you Ferree for writing this book. love it. Terrie k.

From now through the end of the month is when everyone gets the group price of only $11.99. If you've not ordered it yet, now's the time.

Also, why not have your church order copies for their library or their grief ministers, or to start up their own widows group?

Here's a peek at some of the other mail I get about Postcards from the Widows' Path...

This book was so wonderful and really helped me. It seemed like the words were actually reaching into the deep hurt that I felt after losing my husband. I wish every widow could read this. -Ginny

This book meant a lot to me at a time when I needed it most. At a time of deep loss and searching for some way to survive I read this book. I found someone who understood this journey and found her way though it. This was an invaluable resource to survive this journey. -Dorothy

I am finding your book so helpful.  I have been using it as my daily devotional... even though I have been a widow for almost a year and a half, your book gave me new insights and direction. -Linda

Thank you so much for mailing your book promptly to me. It was another time God was helping me. It arrived just as the blizzard was starting last Thursday. I was so down as this was the first snowstorm without my husband. I live in the country and was feeling very alone and isolated and remembering the wonderful times my husband and I had together in blizzards. The book's arrival was my bright spot in the storm. I have read the book and think it is one of the best I've read and I have read many on death and grieving. I could hardly put it down.  -Deb

Order your "bright spot in the storm" today! 

♥ ferree

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

A Solemn Pause

February 15, 2000 started out
like any ordinary day
but life changed
before we could sit down for supper

Bruce, me, Lisa, Brad
The food sat cold in the kitchen
I must have thrown it out the next day,
or the next
or the next

Brooke was in Chicago at MBI
She rushed home right away
(I cannot remember how)
but Bruce was gone
before any of us could say good-bye

Mostly I wondered how he could be happy
if Heaven was such a happy place
How could he not miss us
But I would never ask him to come back
here halfway to hell

Today calls for a solemn pause
Respect. And love. And gratitude.
Complaints and comparisons
sometimes beat my brain like
moths in the dark

I keep them out the open window
they'll not put holes in me
Truth be told (Tom's common phrase)
Bruce knows the happy outcome
and I'm halfway to heaven, not hell

Monday, February 13, 2017

Please Pray for Leah and family

Dear Ones,
I met Leah Stirewalt as a blogger several years ago when her first husband
died by suicide. My heart sympathized for her but I also admired her strong
faith and determination to be defined by God's grace rather than death.

The title of her blog, Out of Deep Waters, was a fitting theme for her life and
the passion with which she lived and served the Lord with gratitude and love.
Eventually she remarried, and I got to meet her in person in 2015 at a Widows Might Retreat where we were both speakers. I came away wishing I could spend more time with her. She was so genuine, wise, and well-spoken.

It sounds like I'm writing her obituary doesn't it? Well, I'm not, but with the news I'm about to share it may as well be because you ladies all know that when our husband dies it feels like a part of us has died too. And that is what happened yesterday morning. Here are Leah's own words, copied from Facebook:

There are no words to express my thanks for the outpouring of love and prayers concerning my precious Joel! He is now in the arms of Jesus! We hurt so badly but are so thankful this "goodbye" is only temporary until we will one day be reunited in Heaven. We will still need your prayers for a long time to come but especially in a few hours when I have to share this heartbreaking news with his 4 youngest babies. 

There are always new widows to pray for and exceedingly difficult situations, but I'm bringing this case to your attention because of the "4 youngest babies." Just this past year Joel and Leah adopted 3 orphans from Bulgaria and also became foster parents to a toddler. If you click on the Out of Deep Waters button you can view Leah's blog and see some pictures. (If you're viewing this on your phone and it doesn't work, you should go directly to my blog by clicking the title at the top of this page).

I'm sorry to burden you with more grief, but on the other hand, there are no better people to pray effectively than we can. I know you'll reel from the shock of it, the immensity, but as Leah says, "God is still good," and this is only a temporary separation. But pray for them anyway. I can think of no better gift to the Lord, or better way to deal with Valentines Day drawing upon us. Let's set aside our own loss and out of love cover this once-again widow with your prayers.


Friday, February 10, 2017

Annual Sale of My Book Begins N-O-W

Have you read it yet?  
"You changed my life!... I couldn't put it down!" and it's "one of the best..." are comments I hear all the time from widows who have. You'd think my head would be swelled up like the Goodyear blimp from all the great things people say, but honestly? I'm just one beggar showing another where there's bread. And hope. And life!
Postcards from the Widows’ Path—gleaning hope and purpose from the Book of Ruth

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Order your copy today and take advantage of my annual sale. Pay only $11.99 per copy plus low shipping rates.
Use this Buy Now button: (If you're reading this on your phone, please go to my blog to use the Buy Now button---all you have to do is click the title of this post). thanks!

Discount Price: $11.99 each (plus shipping)
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To pay by check: for a single copy mail a check for $15.98 ($11.99 + $3.99 shipping) to
Ferree Hardy, P.O. Box 5024, Florence, SC 29502. For more than one book email your request to for shipping costs. Please include your mailing address.

International orders: (including Canada) not available at this time. I'm disappointed too, but shipping costs more than the book!

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How does "Postcards. . ." differ from other books for widows?

There are plenty of books about grief, and there are plenty of Bible studies about Ruth. But Postcards from the Widows’ Path is the only book that looks at Ruth through the eyes of a widow. Scripture comes alive as we see how God uses the examples of Ruth, Naomi and Orpah to guide us through the twists and turns of widowhood and into the deep love and compassion of God.

The chapters are short ---I know the last thing a grieving person wants to do is read a book! But widows love the creative "postcard" from Naomi, Ruth, or Orpah at the beginning of each chapter. They can even draw hope from the book by simply skimming through the postcards. Readers also track their journey through grief and experience tremendous growth and encouragement with the life-changing journalling exercises at the end of each chapter.

A free discussion guide is now available. Imagine the rich conversations and deep relationships that will develop as you gather two, three or more widows or other friends together to talk about your journey. With Postcards from the Widows' Path you'll experience meaningful times of friendship and support as you grow through grief. Be sure to request your discussion guide when you order, and plug in that coffee pot today!

Thursday, February 9, 2017

A Widow's Backpack, part 2

By Darlene O'Lena

So, this morning, as I was doing my devotions, I noticed a “rock” still sitting in my backpack. I thought I had emptied out all the rocks at the foot of the cross. But here was this ONE. Fairly good sized, too. What is this, I thought?
So, I began to do my devotions and every single verse pointed to this rock: FEAR. Fear of the unknown, fear of future circumstances, fear of being alone, fear of making wrong decisions, and on and on. As I read my devotions, I was taken again and again to the book of Isaiah.
“Boy”, I thought, “Isaiah must have been full of fear also.”
Here is what he wrote:
Isaiah 41:10…. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Hmmmm….. He says God will strengthen and help me…..
Isaiah 43:1…. “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.”
Hmmmm….. I am HIS.
But this time, I continued on with Isaiah 43:2…. “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.“
Beloved, God is ALWAYS with us. He WILL never leave us. He WILL go through every FEAR with us. He only asks us to TRUST Him.
Are there any rocks still sitting in YOUR backpack?

This is my kitchen table where I do my devotions. I have that rock to remind me of giving my "rocks" to Jesus. I'm being encouraged to put a book together with all of my writings. For now, I just keep writing. I like the feedback I get when people read what I wrote. With the Parkinson's Disease, who knows how long I'll be able to write. But God has given me this gift and I want to use it for His Glory. 

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

A Widow's Story: What's In Your Backpack?

by Darlene O'Lena

While doing my devotions this morning, I actually said to God “Lord, I’m SO tired of everything.”

As I sat there thinking of all I have to do today and things on my mind, God gave me an image so strong that I couldn’t ignore it. I pictured a backpack overflowing with LARGE rocks.

On each rock was a label… “Finances”, “Family”, “Work”, “Health”, etc.

In my mind, I pictured myself picking up this heavy backpack every morning and throwing it on my back, overloaded and weighted down. Then, walking thru the day, actually TRUDGING from the weight of this load on my back, only to take it off at night and picking it back up the next day.

Wearing this backpack really takes a toll….. body aches, tiredness, tears sliding down my cheeks, irritability, depression, sleepless nights. Well, no wonder, with a load on my back THAT heavy every day.

That isn’t what God wants for our lives at all ! Didn’t Jesus say “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest”? (Matthew 11:28) and, also, “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:30).

He really doesn’t WANT us to carry this around on our backs every day. He wants us to give every one of those rocks to HIM. Empty that bag out at His feet and let HIM take care of it all.

I admit, I have a problem with giving it all to Him. I pretty much have learned to take care of myself, and, in my human nature, still want to take care of EVERYTHING. But, it’s taking its toll. So, I am going to work at keeping that backpack EMPTY.

After I empty it out and hand all the rocks to Jesus, I’m going to keep that backpack on the chair next to where I do my devotions in the morning, reminding myself to keep it EMPTY. It won’t be easy at first, but God will teach me…. 

Father God, thank you for reminding me of this today. Help me and others to “unload our backpacks” today and not fill them back up. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Thank you for sharing this wonderful devotional with us Darlene. Readers, if you missed out on Darlene's mission trip to Rwanda last year I know you'll want to catch up by checking out this link:
A Widow's Journey to Rwanda
Rwanda, Day One
Rwanda: The Rest of the Story