Friday, January 9, 2015

A Wonderful Opportunity for Widows!

I have amazing news! I'm laid up with a bad back, but God is still moving on the behalf of widows!  ferree

An anonymous benefactor would like to pay the way for one of my readers to attend aNew Season Widows Conference in Dallas, TX! This is a $379.00 value!
Date: Thursday – Saturday, Feb. 26-28, 2015

Place: Crossroads Bible Church, Double Oak, TX (15 minutes from DFW airport)
TO ENTER: Send a private Facebook message to Ferree Hardy with the words “Add me” and your phone number so you can be called if your name is drawn. (Your phone number will not be kept or used for any other purpose). That's all! Only one entry per person. Widows only. Incomplete or incorrect entries will not be verified and questions cannot be replied to so please follow these directions precisely. Tip: make sure your spell checker gets Ferree's name right. :)
HOW WILL YOU KNOW IF YOUR ENTRY WAS RECEIVED? Your entry will be verified with a private Facebook message within 24 hours and you’ll be added to a confidential event group within Facebook called Lifeboat Special Events.  There you can interact and possibly have opportunities to increase your chances to win. If you do not have Ferree Hardy as a “friend” in Facebook, be sure to send her a friend request with your message. If you don't have a Facebook account go to to set one up. 
Enter anytime from now until midnight (PST) Tuesday, Jan. 20.
On Jan 21 the drawing will be held and the winner contacted. If the winner cannot be reached, or she is unable to attend a runner-up will be drawn.
The winner will be announced on Jan. 22 to the event group.

This special offer only applies to this event and cannot be applied to a future conference or exchanged for cash. Please be able to attend the entire three days, Thursday – Saturday; and be able to provide your own transportation, room and board. (Discounted rooms at a nearby hotel are available for $99.00- $109.00 per night until Jan. 25). Please see the aNew Season website for more details at

Monday, January 5, 2015

Memorial Wall for January 2015

Here's the January listing from the Memorial Wall here at Widows Christian Place. I hope you'll use it throughout this month to pray for everyone. If you'd like to add your own tribute to the Memorial Wall, please follow the directions mentioned here. I'd be honored to add your precious memory.
ferree JANUARY
1/1/2009 * Gerel * Enkhsaikhan, at age 24 - tumor * Tushig (boy) 2years old * He received Jesus Christ 7 days before when he passed away. And I also become Christian and my son too. I am a follower of Jesus by all my heart and mind. * Ulaanbaatar, Mongolia
1/2/2012 * Karen * Spouse - Don Age 67 - Hypertensive and Diabetic Cardiomyopathy * Daughter Andrea - 44; Son Kurt; - 41; 4 Grandchldren (15, 8, 6, 3) * My husband and best friend passed unexpectably in his sleep 1/2/12. We were not aware of any impending problems that would cause something like this so waking up to find him "gone" was a real shock! We had just celebrated our 48th wedding anniversary 3 days before. I am not able to stay alone due to some health issues of my own so I had to leave our home in TN and move in with our daughter in FL. We were together 24/7 and I depended on him for everything so in just a few seconds my life was turned "upside down"! I thank the Lord for helping me get through this first year in some very amazing ways. In Jeremiah 29:11 the Lord says "For I know the plans I have for you"..... I still do not know what all of those plans for me hold, but am trusting the Lord for direction each day. With all of that said, I still feel as though I have a huge hole in my heart and part of me went with him the day God called him home.
1/2/2011 * Sharon Vander Waal * Wayne, passed away after a 4 ½ year struggle with a rare neurological disease called Multiple systems atrophy type c * Three sons all married: Derrick, Troy, and Brian * Wayne was the love of my life, and we were married for over 39 years. * Wisconsin
1/03/2012 * Carol * Larry - Bladder Cancer * Sons: Edward (50) and Allan (46) * Larry moved to heaven the day before his 73rd birthday. Without my best friend and husband of 51 years, life continues on around me but I know my life has changed forever. I'm trying with God's help to adjust to the loneliness, cherish the memories and live my life as he would have wanted. But, it is so very hard to continue on without him. * Florida
1/03/2011 * Kaye * Ken Boyd, multiple organ failure * Kelly, 52 * Ky, 49 * Dated for 31/2 years, married for nearly 55 years. We grew up together. Was very out-going, loved sports, loved his children and grandchildren. Served in the Army for 3 years, was a car salesman, and worked with the Texas Youth Commission, a juvenile detention center. He worked with the student work program.Was a baseball coach for many years, coaching son and grandson. I miss my guy. He always made me fill he was the luckiest guy in the world to be married to me.
1/4/2011 * Carrie * Darryl, age 48 - Sepsis Pneumonia * one daughter, Brittany, age 19 *
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and I believe that is true even when God calls a loved one home. When Darryl would tell me he loved me, or had a promise to make to me he would end it by saying, “hard fast promise.” Darryl I want you to know I will love you forever and always, Hard Fast Promise. Love your wife, Carrie
1/6/2013 * Billie * Alvin* Went to heaven from complications of cirrohsis of the liver. Al had not been really well for 2-3 years as the disease progressed. The last 5 months he was still with me, we shared our hearts, forgave each other from past offenses and shared time together visiting our families. I'm so thankful to the Lord He gave us those last few months together to become closer than we had in years. He was able to reconnect with his three sons who came to visit 4 times those last months. He loved the Lord. Our first date was going to his church 33 years ago. We would have been married 32 years April 11th. I miss him so much. I love him more than I thought possible. I yearn for the day when we will be reunited in heaven. I love you, Alvin. Wait for me my love, I'll be there soon.
1/8/2014 * Sandie * My husband Kenny, went home one year ago on Thursday, January 8. My love had pancreatic cancer. We have a daughter Mary, 35, and through her our awesome grandson Thomas, who is 3 1/2. For some time he asked about his poppy, its so unfair. Kenny loved life. He was a hunter, fisherman, biker, Christian, and he was so looking toward to teaching Thomas all the man stuff. * I thank God for all the Christian care that He has surrounded me with in these past not even 2 years. Kenny was diagnosed January 10, 2013 and he passed January 8, 2014. * I'm so glad you're home Mr. Honey, I love you and miss you. And so does Mary and Thomas. I can't wait to be with you and to be praising God together once again.
1/9/2014 * Brenda * Mark went to Heaven at the age of 54 from a heart attack * Sheena 30, Kayla 27, Ashley 23 * He was the light of my life and was such a great husband, father, friend, brother and uncle. We miss him so very much and feel lost without him. We cling to God's Word, Love and Promises and wait for the day He brings us together again. Mark, thank you for 30 great years together here on earth, I can't wait to be with you for eternity in the presence of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. You are always in my heart and on my mind, I miss you every minute and will love you forever.  Always yours, Brenda
1/9/2005 * Barbara * Jim died of Hypertensive and Diabetic Cardiomyopathy * son Kris 27, daughter Kim 25. * Jim died 7 days after he was placed in Hospice. I will love you forever and can’t wait to see you again.
1/10/2011 * Jean * Glenn, age 59. * Went into the hospital for a simple hernia repair. Due to the hospital not knowing how serious his prior heart condition was. Glenn passed away on January 10, 2011. I do not blame the medical staff, as each and every one of us has just a certain amount of time on earth. I do thank them for admitting it was human error - though in reality it wasn't, but I do thank them for taking what they have learned and using it in other cases. He had dedicated his life to the Lord when he was in his twenties, but did not fully embrace his walk until about three years before his death. He had a great respect and love for his aunt who used each and every day and each and every hour to speak of her Lord. Glenn emulated this in the last years, and it was a great blessing to hear of how his love for the Lord had affected others lives at and after his funeral. * He leaves two sons Geoff age 36 and Gregg age 30 and one daughter Gabrielle age 32. * God was merciful to us in that for a few months before the surgery we knew that his time was limited. Over these few months God gave us blessings in our relationship that still amaze me. Yes, I am lonely and miss him terribly but God is Good --All the time.
1/13/2009 * Wendy * Chris - Glioblastoma Mulitforme * Ian (17 months) and Claire (10 days old) * We miss you every day.
1/15/2011 * Lucy Anne * husband age 51 - from end-stage MS * sons Luke 23, Jake 20.
1/17/2014 * Lori * Allen Frank Johnson January 17, 2014. * Son Misha, 21. * Died of cardiac arrest. The love of my life and the best father I ever knew. I'll see you soon!
1/17/2013 * Chris * Ron, age 68, diagnosed with desquamative interstitial pneumonitis in 1994 and told he had 3-6 months to live. Many people came to believe in the power of prayer, not simply because of his survival, but because of his humor and kindness in the face of much suffering over the years. We were friends for 30 years, married for 26 of those. Shortly after Christmas he developed pneumonia, but treatment wasn't working. He elected to go on a ventilator in the hopes of regaining strength. It was not to be--after two weeks sepsis set in, then organ failure. I made the agonizing decision to let him go. * He had three children (my stepchildren) - Ron 39, Christopher 37, and Jessica 32 * I'm trying to follow his example and favorite prayer: "Thank you Lord, for another day."
1/19/2011 * Jennifer * Alan, my husband of 24 years on due to multiple myeloma. * We have 3 children, Daniel 15yo, Amanda 12yo, and Adam 6yo. * We miss him.
1/20/2011 * Louise * Alan - Cardiac Arrest * My Love I Miss You. You Are With Jesus Now and i Want To Tell You So Much That If I Had to Do It All Over Again, i Would be A Better Wife & Friend. I Love You & I Always Will. You Loved Me Like No Other Man Could & Will Again. You Made Me See That We Are Able to Love Because Jesus Loved Us First.
1/21/2013 * Teboho * Victor , car accident * Mellissa 13, Nesbert 9 * I will always miss the years we spent together, they were great years. I miss you Victor. * Africa
1/21/09 * Stacy * Stan - Sarcoma metastasized to lungs and brain * Deacon, nearly 3 and Mathias, 1.5 * Stan was diagnosed when I was 8 mos pregnant with our second boy and passed away 15 months later. His progression was mercifully quick - it was a very painful journey for him. We miss him. * MA
1/22/13 * Marjorie * Wayne - Lung cancer. Married to the love of my life for almost 55 years. We were blessed with our wonderful family * Randy, Cindie, and Mike, their spouses, 8 grandchildren and 4 great-grands. * Wayne loved the LORD with all of his heart. His favorite scripture for life was Proverbs 3:5,6. We are in awe of the LORD'S love and faithfulness as we continue life's journey until we meet the LORD and our precious loved ones in heaven. We still miss him terribly. * Idaho.
1/22/2013 * Lisa * Michael, age 59, cancer * We were married for 20 years and spent those years 24/7 working together with abused and neglected children, loving every minute we had together. I miss you everyday.
1/27/13 * Margaret * Nathan * kidney cancer * Heather, Matthew, Nicole & Matthew and 4 Grandchildren. * My life changed the day I lost the Love of my Life. I know Nathan watches over us and that gives me the strength to create a new normal. I miss him so much. * Lancaster, PA
1/28/2011 * Colleen Millard * husband Bob, age 50, suddenly from pulmonary embolism. * Children Matt 25, Ryan 23, Paul 18, Tim 15. * We miss you everyday and are trying our best to move forward. Thanks for taking such good care of us and loving us well.
1/29/2014 * Cathy Rose * Vernon, aneurysm/tear in stomach * Andrew 24; Michael 20 * He was a humble and godly man, and well-loved. I love you, Sweetheart... to the moon and back. * East Tennessee
1/31/2011 * Cindy * Barry - melanoma * Jeffrey (27), and Ryan (17) * In my Father’s House are many mansions ----until we join you----we carry your love in our hearts. * SC

Friday, January 2, 2015

Thank you for visiting my blog today. I need to take the next few days off but I hope you'll return often or sign up to receive new posts by email. There's a box on the right column to type your email address in, and it's just as easy to unsubscribe whenever you want, too.

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Wednesday, December 31, 2014

The Road to Spiritual Health in 2015

Are you spiritually starving yourself?

Just as the body needs to eat, our spirit needs to be fed God's Word.
I know it's hard to concentrate in the early days of grief, but after a while we should make a concerted effort to spend time reading the Bible in order to grow and get through this ordeal.
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV)
As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby

Why not equip yourself with a good plan for Bible reading or devotions in 2015? Here are two devotionals you can receive by email and some Bible reading plans for your choosing.

Through the Bible In A Year Reading Plans
There are so many Bible reading plans its hard to choose! Personally, I want to focus on the New Testament this year so I'll be using the 5 x 5 x 5 plan. I've used it before and highly recommend it. It will take me through the entire New Testament in 5 minutes a day, 5 days a week, and suggests 5 ways I can get more out of it. I'd love for you to join me in using this plan too! Just click on the PDF, print it, and keep it with your Bible so you can check off each day's reading. The other plans are great, but if you've never read the entire Bible or have trouble concentrating, I think you'll really like the 5 x 5 x 5 plan. Click here to find it and take a look at them all: Bible Reading Plans for 2015

Daily Devotionals
For inspirational reading and comfort you can subscribe to various ministries. There are so many I couldn't begin to list them all so check your denomination, favorite Christian broadcasts or publishers to see what they offer. For grief and widowhood I recommend the following free subscriptions:
A Season of Grief daily emails from GriefShare
A Widow's Might daily emails plus a free ebook on growing through grief

The journey through grief is challenging and rugged. Take it step by step, one day, one moment, one breath at a time but don't starve your spirit along the way! Fuel up with God's Word each day and you'll be in a far better place next year at this time.

Happy New Year!  ferree

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Searching for Answers

Dear Reader,

As this new day and another new year dawns on us I find myself searching for relief once again from back pain. And I know you're searching for relief from the pain of grief and a broken heart. I've recovered from that so I know that with the Lord's help you can too. But just as you probably doubt my words, I'm not so sure I'll get over this back problem. It was almost good a couple of weeks ago, but as usual, I thought I was "back to normal" and over did it with Christmas packages and decorating. sigh. So we're not so different after all...

Sometimes it's two steps forward, three steps back on our parallel journeys. Perhaps we each have to accept that and grant patience to ourself. Yesterday I was having a big pity party as I pictured my future of constant pain and not being able to do all sorts of stuff like walk a dog, (or even walk!) pick up a baby, pull a pan of cookies out of the oven, sit through a church service...---sound familiar? I just wanted my health back. We can all personalize that sentence: I just wanted ________ back.

How do you fill in that blank? How do we fill our future with hope rather than despair?

Honestly? I can't tell you with one little blog post. But I know God can as He works to clear the dark channels and chambers of our hearts. And I know He will. But probably not according to our complaints, suggestions, demands... or brokenness and begging. I want instant results but God is a gentleman and does not force His will (or my own) upon me. He waits for my humility and cooperation. He waits for me to give up and admit I'm done. And once I'm at the end of myself and drained of myself He continues to wait for me to realize that all I really need is Him.

Our yearning for what we consider best---whether it be health or husband---that's not what this season of life, this trial or challenge is about. It's more about our realizations, our responses, rather than our expected earthly outcomes isn't it?

I hope you'll walk with me into this new year, exploring these painful mysteries, searching for answers, resting in hope, and discovering anew all that the Lord intends for us. ferree

Monday, December 29, 2014

A Brand New Year Ahead

Even though all the Christmas packages have been unwrapped, maybe the tree is already gone, there's still one big package to open. For most widows I suspect its like the proverbial elephant in the living room; we're trying to ignore it and that's really awkward because the beast is obviously there; we wish it would go away but it won't; it's too big to handle ourselves. The elephant--this mysterious, unopened package--is a brand new year.

Maybe you're not done with the old year, you say? Maybe it's too soon, the grief too fresh, the shock still a constant companion? Ahh, then here's what to do: lean into the new year, looking forward to it as a time of rest and recovery. Learn about the grief journey, collect and preserve your memories, find mentors or role models, and spot and follow your Shepherd through the valley of Psalm 23.

Perhaps you are SO DONE with the old year? Do you feel like you're suspended in limbo, waiting for your so-called life to happen again? Do you wonder if there's any meaning, any purpose, any reason why you're still here? Do you worry that twelve months from now life will be exactly the same as it is today? Then I invite you to gather your courage and step into the new year. Like before, spot and follow your Shepherd. Continue to work through your grief, but begin to awaken to God's promises, many of which are summed up in Jeremiah 29:11.

As I constantly scour the Internet for resources for widows, I'm continually convinced and impassioned for the need for Widows Christian Place. Widows gasp for hope, and this is one of the few places to find it. Constant venting and groveling in grief merely perpetuates and ingrains the grief. While grief is acknowledged here, I believe it's also important to address the whole of life because the rest of the world will not stop when life explodes and a woman is widowed. The widow is pretty much left to herself to pick up the pieces. My hope is that WCP will help widows do just that--pick up the pieces, adapt to the new normal, discover hidden strengths and talents that God formed deep within before they were born, and with God at their side, step into the adventure of this new phase of life.

Let's unwrap the new year together. Even if it is an elephant, with God we can handle it.
Jeremian 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.