Monday, February 17, 2020

Empowerment for Widows

Best Birthday ever! 

  • I got to go to OHIO 
  • and there was SNOW 
  • and Andrea (who also relocated but was with me in our Sassy Widows Group in South Carolina) 
  • and Plain Values magazine (a magazine for which I've written a widows column for the past 4 years)
  • and new, amazing friends I got to meet at the seminar Broken Restoration women's group hosted at Fairlawn Mennonite Church in Apple Creek. 

People talk about EMPOWERMENT FOR WOMEN all the time but this weekend God DID IT as 60 women (many were Amish!) gathered together to shine a light on our stories of sorrow and God's precious love for us! I am pumped to start year 64 !!! Thank you, everyone who prayed for this weekend, and for all the Happy Birthday wishes! 

Andrea and me
Each lady who attended received a copy of my book and I was reminded once again that God comforted me so I could pass along that comfort with the powerful dynamic of Postcards from the Widows' Path. Click to my blog bookstore for the best price if you haven't ordered yours yet. Encouragement and comfort await! 

Tuesday, February 11, 2020

Give Away Today! 2 issues

Well that was quick! Our winners are Paula in Minnesota and Beth in Illinois. My regrets to all the rest of you, but if you click on the Chera Fellowship link below you can find out how to subscribe, or you can view previous issues. Many of you mentioned sharing it with your widows group--great idea! You can also share the archived issues. So this is a wonderful and free resource whether you won one of my copies or not. Priceless!

I have 2 copies of Chera Fellowship magazine free to the first two people who email me at to request it. Be sure to include your mailing address or I'll just send it to the next person.

Chera Fellowship is published 4x/year by Independent Fundamental Churches of America. They've been reaching out to widows and widowers longer than any other ministry I've ever come across! Someone sent me a subscription when I was first widowed and it really helped to know that I was not alone.

To see archived issues and find out more please visit their website:

Have a blessed week! Please pray for me as I travel to Ohio to present a seminar on Saturday: "Shining A Light on Our Sorrows & Hope."  Thank you!

Monday, February 3, 2020

How to Make Bible Reading A Delight

Transform daily Bible reading from a duty to a delight with a small notebook to jot down some "ABC's" --
  • A - jot down A title of the ONE chapter or section just read. Try using a Bible reading plan so you know what to read every day. If you find it hard to focus or concentrate try my Bible reading plan that you can download from the side column. It sets you up with only a chapter or two a day.
  • B - copy the BEST verse that stands out to you. 
  • C - copy a comfort to claim or a command to follow.   
I love this simple but profound little outline. It's amazing to look back and notice the many ways God truly did guide and direct through my Bible reading!

Do you wonder where to start reading? Here's the beauty of my Bible reading plan (you can download a copy of the one you see in the sidebar of my blog, just click on it) (email readers, go to the actual blog in order to see it) :
  • You can start it at any point during the year. 
  • You'll read the entire New Testament and corresponding Psalms, plus Proverbs and Ruth. 
  • Each season you'll read a gospel: winter--Matthew, spring--John, summer--Mark, Christmas--Luke.
  • The first day of every month (except February) a section of the longest chapter in the Bible, Psalm 119 will encourage and remind you of how great and effective God's Word is for daily life.
  • And last but not least, an * marks chapters that contain the word "widow."
It took me a couple years to create this plan and test it out on myself, but it's been worth it to hear from people who are using it . 

No matter whether you choose to go with a devotional or try a Bible reading plan, the important thing is to start today. Do it in the morning, before bedtime, after a meal or as many times a day or week as you want! Just Do It! You'll be so glad you did! And if you miss a day? Just pick it back up, don't try to catch up. God will meet you where you are.
These are the notebooks I like best. I use a new one
each year. They cost on $1 $2 at various stores
like WalMart or Dollar General.

Thursday, January 30, 2020

The Peculiar Power of Loss

Dear Friend,
Do you ever feel overwhelmed at the power of your love and emotions since the loss of your husband or wife? My father marvelled over and over at the strong love he felt after my mom passed. He seemed so anxious to see her in heaven so he could finally let her see his true heart, free from the misunderstandings and awkwardness of this temporal world....

Well, I think my dad would have agreed in whole what I've posted today--"It is the peculiar power of loss to wake within us a dangerously potent love..." It was written just a few days ago by Tim Worsham, and sent to me by his father, Steve, an old friend of mine, faithful pastor, and a really good dad.

So when you get a quiet moment appropriate for this thoughtful and stunningly beautiful piece of word-smithing, fasten your heart. Tim wrote this as a tribute to his Uncle George, and it was read during a private family time after the funeral. My heart goes out to them all, and I deeply appreciate being able to share this with you today. ❤ferree

My heart is with my Vegas family today.
It is the peculiar power of loss to wake within us a dangerously potent love. Until the subtle bonds are severed our ache for the other is imperfectly perceived. But the cut when it comes, in whatever form, sends tremors the full length of us. Our love becomes more urgent in absence more agonizing.
In contrast, our present loves seem pale. But it isn’t true. This love in loss, this aching, raging torrent of grief is the exact love that we were made for. It reaches in desperation past all casual comfort with the full weight of our eternal self behind it. And were our lost ones living, an equal reciprocation would fail. It is this loss that wakes the dormant heart in us, the heart still tuned to the Life that formed us and the Life ahead. A Life only fully lived on the other side. A Life that encompasses our lost and our loss and renders perfect Light.
It is right that, though we heal in part, our wounds stay open. It is true that only a reunion sets us free. We were made to reach from life past loss to Life on the other side. And yes, our lost will be waiting, but not with open arms as we imagine. Their backs will be to us, and their eyes will be leading us further on. Ever onward, ever upward. Where Life and Light and the peculiar and potent Love has its beginning and no end.
My Dear Uncle George will be fiercely missed as the love that he shared was always weighted with a heavy draw from the other side. We won't let go. We'll let the weight of that love lead us through to that sweet reunion. With him and the One who gave him Life eternal.
By Tim Worsham ©      
Tim has also written a short book honoring a young niece that died in infancy, depicting her arrival in heaven and being greeted by her great grandfather. It’s called Shylight, and is available on Amazon. 
Tim lives in Golden Valley MN and is a part of Real Life Church in Roseville MN.
Shylight is Christmas as it’s celebrated in Heaven.
Charlie-girl is a Dawnling called from the Far Country when she was only five months old. She and her Great-Grandfather, Don, celebrate her first Christmas in the Bright Lands. There, the celebration is called Shylight.
The full and glorious light of the Promise would have shattered the Far Country if revealed all at once. But the Promise entered, veiled in flesh, to plant a seed that continues to grow, reshaping hearts, ruining them for the Far Country, and fitting them for the Bright Lands.

Monday, January 20, 2020

2 Events Coming Soon! I Hope You Can Come!

Saturday, Feb. 15 I'll be presenting a seminar in Ohio's "Amish Country."

February 15
"Shining Light On Our Sorrow & Hope" 
9:00 - 3:00
Fairlawn Mennonite Church
Apple Creek, Ohio
Tickets: $10.00 
(includes coffee & lunch & Postcards From the Widows' Path)
RSVP by Feb. 1 to Sheila 330.446.5064
Seating is limited so call soon
Hosted by "Broken Restoration" a local group of widowed and divorced women 
who support each other through all the challenges of forging a new chapter of life.

The first weekend in March I'll be facilitating a small group at the Widow's Journey Retreat in Maryland. 
March 6-8
Widow's Journey
Sandy Cove Ministries Retreat Center
North East, Maryland
(approx. one hour drive from either Philadelphia or Baltimore, 
on the northern shores of Chesapeake Bay)
Check out the program here. 
(I look forward to re-connecting with Miriam Neff and Jennifer Sands who are both mentioned in my book!)
Look into pricing here. Prices are per person. 

If you register please let me know and let's have dinner together on Friday night. 
Email me at so we can coordinate. 
This retreat has been such a blessing and turning point for so many. And with Gayle Roper's leadership and connections you will be greatly encouraged by each of the speakers.

Tuesday, December 31, 2019

A Widow's Daily Bible Reading Guide

A One-Year Bible Reading Plan for Widows 2020

Dear Friends,

I can't say "Happy New Year," not when hearts are far from happy and a calendar of sorrow looms ahead.  But I do have a gift for you...

Start this new year by using a Bible reading plan. It helps us know what to do next---and in the fog of grief that's exactly what we need!. 

I first posted this plan about 2 years ago, after about 2 years of trial and error to develop it. Although other other plans will get you through the Bible in a year or two, most widows are too distracted to read 3 or 4 chapters of the Bible each day--it's too much to take in. 

So that's where my plan comes in: 
  • You'll read the entire New Testament, many Psalms, all of Proverbs, and all of Ruth  
  • You'll read the 4 gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) one per season--winter, spring, summer, fall. 
  • You can start reading, or get back on track reading at any time without feeling like you have to "catch up" because books do not overlap into the next month. 
  • Most months start out with a section of Psalm 119 to remind us of all the excellent things God's Word does for us!  
TO PRINT: Click the small images of the plan in the column at the right. (If you are viewing this blog post on a cell phone or email, you might need to click on the title at the top this page to get to the actual website). If you need me to mail you a printed copy please send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to me at Ferree Hardy, 122 Breckenridge Place, North Augusta, SC 29841. I'll be happy to mail you one at no charge. You may reprint as many copies as you need. 

Reading the Bible anchors our day with encouragement, wisdom, hope and comfort. It gives us perspective and perseverance because it enables us to see the big picture of God's love and faithfulness. I hope you will get into God's Word this year and that this Bible-reading plan will be a helpful and tremendous blessing as you start into 2020!