Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Have You Written An Anniversary Letter?

My blogger and writer friend Kathy Bellows posted a letter to her husband for their would-have-been anniversary on May 10. That might sound like a pretty sad letter, and she honestly talks about the sadness. But reading it showed me a difference between sadness and sorrow, and also how she exchanges her sad and depressing thoughts for the true and comforting promises of God.

We can learn a lot from Kathy and the trials she has faced. Please visit her blog, Sorrow to Victory at http://sorrowtovictory.wordpress.com/
or click here to go directly to An Anniversary Letter to My Husband.

I'm sure she'd love to hear from you, so please leave a comment if you can, and let her know how you found her. Her book, pictured here, may be ordered on her site, too, and it follows the journey of the two-year battle with her husband's cancer---God's faithfulness during that time and in the days after her husband died. Telling her story in this way has been a great help and encouragement to the many people who've read her book.

The Lord might not have you write a whole book about your widowhood experience (then again, maybe He might!), but writing a letter to your husband might be something that will help you. Pray about it, and if you're inclined, give it a try when the time is right.   


  1. Thanks for posting this, Ferree! It was a real blessing! I may look into ordering her book.

  2. I love the last line,
    We may not live together any more, but my heart is still tied to yours.
    My heart is still so sorrowful, I hope the pain ends one day or at least lessons.

    joan klinger

  3. I have been writing him letters for a while. In the beginning, they were more, sometimes twice or thrice a day , with time, they have thinned out, but I still do. It sometimes helps me to read them and find how much has changed in my thinking since he left. If I was to summarize them, I would say that with time have learnt to lean more on God, than on my own understanding.


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