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Thanks for visiting, and I think you'll find the following conversation fascinating as it picks up from yesterday . . .
♥ ferree
CAROL Thank you ladies! Its exciting, refreshing,
and encouraging at the very least! This is where Isaiah 54:4-8 comes in. God
desires all of us. Its difficult to have that intimate relationship with the
Lord, as a wife. Plain and simple. I'm glad I established that before
remarrying. I don't think God would have allowed me to remarry until I did
:-) Still, He has to be first. And the PROMISES, have you seen these?? He
protects our property, He is our defender, He punishes those who are mean to
us and the orphans... the list goes on and on! Awesome!
PATTY I love you and your way of thinking and what
you share with us, Carol. God is awesome, and He is working through you!
KELLY I am jumping up and down! Wahoo!! I am so
glad you ladies are walking in the light and were not content to stay in
darkness.
@ Sandy - what that person said to you (about how you must not have loved your husband since you went on with your life), that is the kind of toxic comment we have to close our eyes and pray away, AND pray for the person who said them. We cannot control what other people think or what they are silly enough to say.
Blessings to us all!
@ Sandy - what that person said to you (about how you must not have loved your husband since you went on with your life), that is the kind of toxic comment we have to close our eyes and pray away, AND pray for the person who said them. We cannot control what other people think or what they are silly enough to say.
Blessings to us all!
CAROL Thank you Patty! You are so close my
sister ;-) You have taken a big step already. I know you will feel this
contentment very soon.
May I make a suggestion for everyone??
May I make a suggestion for everyone??
My 'turning
point' came about a year and 3 months after my husband died. I had a 2 yr old,
and a 3 yr old, I was tired physically and mentally. I knew I was drifting away
from God, not towards Him.
I sat in my kitchen floor and cried out, with a kid
on each knee, begging Him to do something! I said, "I cannot go on. I am so sick
of this situation, it just plain sucks."
And as I cried out and prayed, and
cried some more, I began to feel peace wash over me, just as if water was gently falling
out of my ceiling down on me. We sat there so long both kids fell asleep on me.
By the time I got up physically, I had a plan. I was able to stand up
spiritually. I had surrendered. I told God I no longer wanted to do it on my
own, because my way was not working.
One of the first things I did was commit
to a fast. Our church does one every January. Its an individual fast, which
means you can choose what you want to sacrifice. I do something different every
year, but that year, I decided to go all out with it. I researched the Daniel
Fast, and stuck with it. It was so cleansing, not only physically, but
spiritually and mentally and emotionally as well.
I decided then also that I
would downsize my circles of relationships. My 'support system' had been infiltrated with people
that did not have my best interest in mind, so I cut them off. It was so
difficult, but I felt very relieved.
If you need a change, if you feel like
you've grieved, like you've cried til you can't cry another tear but still have not
reached a place of contentment or joy, try a fast. It doesn't have to be
extreme or long; just something to show the Lord that you are serious about
change. I promise He will reward you!
Commit your contentment and happiness to
prayer. Its OK to pray for yourself!! I will be praying for you as well!!!
Join in this conversation with your own insights and experience. What about you? Have you reached a turning point like Carol mentions? Are there some difficult decisions in doing that? This is all part of a larger process, and not simply a one-time event. What steps has God brought you through in the past days, weeks, months or years? Feel free to share your heart. ♥
