Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Would You Rather Be Called "Widow" or "Single Again?"

My Lifeboat friend, Leslie, is part of this group and was kind enough to share their website with us. Pastor Kluth has a great empathy and way of explaining how to define your status as "single again." Coming to terms with your marital status and having a good word to use for it -- that's a healing step on this journey. When you visit the site, click on the Q and A Panel (http://vimeo.com/36598123)  for the discussion. I think you'll be glad you did.
Christian Singles In Denver

Are you involved in a widows or singles group, too? Spread the word and talk about how it's helped you here on the WCP. If you know of websites for Christian singles that include widows, you are welcome to post it in the comment box.



  1. Ooh single is such a scary word to me! I'm done with my first year of widowhood, and now the pressures to date are starting up. I'll just be "widow" for a while. It feels safe to me.

  2. I, too, would rather be called a widow. "Single again" seems to imply that I am available and I don't feel that way at all.

  3. I'm really proud of both of you for the choices you've made. And that's the thing---you've consciously made this choice, you've gauged where you're at and what you're comfortable with in spite of the pressures around you. Yes! My heart applauds you both!

  4. Honestly, I can't imagine ever identifying myself as "single again". I'll always be Gordon's widow, and as much as he was loved by friends and family (and me!) I think I'd feel like I was discounting the importance and significance of what we were together. I don't know if I'm making any sense, but that's how I feel right now and I don't think that'll ever change. I'm in my mid-60s, so it's not like I'm a "prime" candidate for remarriage. The concept of dating gives me chills just to think about - and I don't mean the good kind of chills, either! If God has some man out there for me, He's going to have a real challenge to get me to be at all interested!

  5. I wrote a blog post (kind of) about this just last month. http://transformationbytheword.blogspot.com/2012/01/widowhood-single-parenting-and-adoption.html

    I prefer "widow." Although sometimes I self-identify as a single mom. I don't like single again because to me it implies divorce (not sure why.)

  6. I am in the same camp, that after 15 months as a widow, I realize that I feel safe in my aloneness. I need to embrace this season and continue to grieve many losses and heal. After prayer, I have committed to a consecrated season of learning to live with the LORD as my husband.

  7. Thanks and God's blessings to you too! Enjoying this helpful site.

  8. I always hated being single. I was single until a month before my 40th birthday when I married Michael. So, oddly enough, widow is preferable to me.


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