Sunday, April 30, 2023

Praying for A Husband

 A young widow recently emailed me to ask about praying for a husband. 

I'm sure many of you can relate to that heart-felt longing, too, so I wanted to hear what you think, and perhaps ways that the Lord has guided you. Should a widow pray for a new husband and father for her child?

I would say, "Most definitely!" 

  • When we know God as our loving, heavenly Father, we know that He wants us to cast all our cares upon Him. (I Peter 5:7) 
  • Asking precedes receiving: so sometimes we have not because we ask not! (James 4:2) 
  • And every good gift (like a husband), is from above. (James 1:17).
So pray, pray, pray! But remember to pray like Jesus did--in actual conversation with God. Don't just leave God request, after request, after request. Some of us treat prayer time like we're talking to a heavenly voicemail or answering machine. 

What would happen to asking God for a husband if we entered into prayer as a conversation?

*In a conversation you could talk heart-to-heart with God. And then God would talk heart-to-heart with you in a variety of ways:
  • through Scripture that you are studying and memorizing, 
  • sermons you are listening too, 
  • fellow-believers who know you well and are able to speak truth into your life, 
  • and that still small voice that gives you peace and rest. 
If you are serious about praying for a husband, begin to pray beyond a list a qualities you want. Let go of fear that God won't answer, let go of the lie that you are all alone, let go of the panic that clutches your throat... God loves you more than any husband ever can. He will provide for you better than any husband ever can. 

And then, have faith that He will, and carefully watch for His answer to your prayers. Listen for His side of your prayer conversations (see *).  And be on guard against the tricks of your enemy, the devil, who wants to use this difficulty to destroy you. 

If you're not sure you understand how to pray, or if God even hears your prayers, please email your questions.

Stand strong in Him my friends. This is not an easy path, but it's full of God's goodness. 💗




  1. Welcome back to "blogland", busy lady! It's been too long since you've posted but as the old saying goes: "absence makes the heart go fonder" . Your post on praying for a husband and the warning about the enemy of our souls is certainly valid! He uses times like this to mislead & cause all kinds of trouble. Thanks again for coming back on-line. You've been missed, that's for sure!

    1. Thank you Bobbie! It's nice to be missed. :) And I miss you too.


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