Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Stepping Away From Loneliness

I hope you all have a copy of Postcards From the Widows' Path. Not because I wrote it, but because it's based on the story of Ruth and Naomi in the Bible, and offers some real solutions for the challenges of widowhood. God knows our needs and he's given us the Bible as our roadmap and guidebook for life.

Loneliness and isolation are some of the most difficult challenges for widows. The quietness of an empty house and the endless evenings alone can make a widow feel suffocated. She doesn't know where to turn.

Naomi didn't know what to do either. For ten years she was stranded in the foreign land where her husband and her sons died. But if we catch the cues from her story we can cut down that number of years. In my book there are simple journaling exercises that offer constructive gauges and steps along the widows' path. With journalling, widows can look back and see the real progress they've made.

Here's a quick summary of a few steps we can learn from Naomi, Ruth and Orpah. My book illustrates many more:
  • Naomi suffered many losses--her husband, her sons, her homeland, her security, her future. Ruth 1:5 says she was left. Have you felt left behind too? I know I did! But by Ruth 1:7, Naomi does something: she gets ready to leave the graveyard of Moab. When the time comes, we can begin to prepare for the life ahead of us.
  • But if we prepare to leave, where will we go? The book of Ruth shows three choices for widows. 1) Naomi returned to her roots. 2) Orpah remained with the familiar. 3) Ruth risked an entirely new life. These are classic choices for many widows today! Read Joan Wyrtzen Bagg's story from last Tuesday and Wednesday to see how she experienced those choices 5 times during her life so far.
  • What will we need for our journey? Naomi prayed a blessing over her two beloved daughter-in-laws, asking God to grant them kindness and rest. Don't you long for those two words too? They are exactly what at every widow needs!  
  • And then the widows walked. One. Step. At. A. Time. They left the graveyard and journeyed to the Promised Land, a place to call home. As our hearts search for home, we must take one step, one day, one breath at a time. Never more; never less.
Doesn't your heart yearn for a place to belong too? It's a difficult journey, but by following the path and choices of widows in the Bible we can walk away from loneliness too. May God grant us all journeying mercies. ferree

P.S. Have you read "Facing the Death of Someone you Love" by the late Elisabeth Elliot? It's a treasure in a small pamphlet. As a special offer, I'm including one FREE with every "Postcards..." book ordered this month. You can order on Amazon, but the best place to order and get the best shipping and group order prices is directly from me, right here on this blog. Scroll to the top of the page and click the BOOKSTORE line. Thanks!


  1. Thank you for this post today.


    1. Thank you Lorraine, I need these too---we all need a place to belong and someone to walk beside us. Thank you for your friendship and for the light you are here on the Internet and in your own neighborhood. <3

  2. Can we purchase E. Elliot pamphlet apart from "Postcards"? If yes I would like to purchase it, I already have "Postcards".


    1. Hi Dodi, I was just thinking the same!!
      You can see and read the copy I'm giving away right here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B009RG4LJO/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_2?pf_rd_p=1944687562&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0891071962&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=0N8VRST5T24DFE2KHM6Z

      But if you'd like a paper copy I'll gladly give you one. Just send a self-addressed, stamped envelope (one stamp, one 3 5/8" x 6 1/2" envelope) and I'll drop one in the mail to you.
      Mail me at Widows Christian Place, PO Box 4596, Florence, SC 29502-4596

    2. Google this title instead of the one I inserted above, the link doesn't work:

      Facing the Death of Someone You Love (Pack of 25)

  3. Okay... Will do.... thanks :)) Dodi

  4. Hey Ferree:) I thought this was a great article on loneliness, especially since the holidays are around the corner. I posted on my facebook page, A Widow's Pursuit, on my Twitter and LinkedIn. Hope it brings more widows to your page:) Cindy


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