Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Widow's Story: How Close To A Man Is Too Close?

Today my blogger friend, Cindy from A Widow's Pursuit new website opens up about her struggles in the early days of widowhood. Here's an excerpt...

What I Couldn't Have---My Best Friends' Husbands

I sense there are other widows that felt vulnerable after their spouses died just as I did. In my denial of grief, about the 3 to 4 month marker, I admit I started to yearn for a male's touch. If I didn't hold such high morals, and if my husband didn't have such good friends that held the same morals as I did, I could have easily gone down the wrong path and committed adultery with my best friends' husbands. They were hurting, and I was hurting, which makes for a very dangerous situation.

My daughters' school counselor had warned me before I began experiencing these feelings. "Don't be alarmed if some of your married girlfriends drift away from you," she said. "They may feel jealous that their husbands' attention is focused more on you than on them." "How sad," I replied. "I hadn't thought about that". She smiled and stood up. "I've known of that happening, so just a warning." We hugged good-by and I thanked her for the advice. I guess that meant...proceed with caution.

I soon yearned to be in the arms of the men that also loved Nelson. I wanted their attention and their hugs. No, I didn't want sex, but I wanted to be closer than what was acceptable as a grieving widow. One night . . .

. . . click here for the rest of the story on Cindy's older blog, Widow's Pursuits. Be sure to add a comment and say "Hi" from your Widows Christian Place. Better yet, get hold of her book on Amazon. Click A Widow's Pursuit for a copy in paperback or Kindle.

Thank you for so honestly sharing your story, Cindy.

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