Monday, August 12, 2013

4 Resources for Widowers

Dear Widower,

Although there aren't many resources for widowers as compared to those for widows, there are some, so take heart. And always remember that God is on your side. He will never leave you or forsake you. He knows your situation, and there are good plans for your life that he will complete, Phil. 1:6.

Local Grief Group
The first place I'd refer you to is GriefShare, a support group with a DVD curriculum. On the DVD's you'll hear from other widowers, and the general knowledge about grief will not only help you recognize patterns in what you're going through, but will also give you freedom to release it in God's timing and prepare for a hopeful future.
www.griefshare.org Simply type your zipcode in the search box to find a group.

Books
Did you know Christian musician Jeremy Camp was widowed? He has a book, 'I Still Believe' that talks about being widowed in his 20's and his remarriage.
C.S. Lewis was widowed, and wrote "A Grief Observed" which is very raw and at times hopeless. No resolution is offered but it may help put words to how things you experience. Identifying those happenings and thoughts helps to deal with them. You begin to know what to expect in this boxing ring, and find out you're not alone.
H. Norman Wright was widowed, too, and his book about the experience is "Reflections of A Grieving Spouse." He's a Christian counsellor. The more closely you can relate to any of these men--their ages, their circumstances, etc --the more their books might help.

Blogs
Online there are various pages by widowers/for widowers. Here's a blogger I just found:
Comfort2theMourning This blog is written by a couple who were both widowed before they married each other. There are stand alone pages for widowers.
Also, R.C.Sproul, Jr. a reformed theologian who's wife died in 2011wrote about her the following year: http://rcsprouljr.com/wp/blog/ask-rc/rc-year-passing-wife-learned/

Website for Widowers
For general/secular info for widowers, here's a website based on a book that looked pretty good to me
http://www.widowerstoolbox.com/

I hope this helps a bit. If you have specific questions about being a widower, I'll do everything I can to help you find some biblical answers. My husband, Tom's first wife died from ovarian cancer when he was 40, leaving him with a 10-year-old son, so he might have some good things to share with you too. Email him at WCplace@gmail.com too. ferree

5 comments:

  1. Hi Tom,

    Your blogs are supportive from a view of a widower. But I think you missed an important source for us widowed people. Noticed that many of the widowed people are above the age 40. Move forward and get married again is an issue for them. I found a good widowe and widower dating site http://www.datingawidower.us/ for widowed people over 40 that I'd like to share with all who experienced the same with me. Goodluck.

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  2. Widowers are live in silent. That's great work. Because it writing for widowers.

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  3. Dear Sue, Thank you for your comment and referral to the widower dating site. I know some readers will be interested! As usual, my mention of a resource or website is not necessarily my endorsement. Readers should be aware that this website does not claim to be a Christian site, and also there may be a fee. Here's a copy of their disclaimer:
    "Disclaimer: 100% Free basic membership allows you to browse the site, view profiles, send flirts and modify your profile. Charges will accrue if you purchase a premium membership which is offered upon completion of your profile."
    Thanks again, Sue!

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  4. I will tell you that the widowers tool box is not a Christian resource. You should reconsider posting this.

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  5. Thank you for emphasizing that the Widowers Toolbox is secular, not Christian. Hopefully by the time I post this topic again there will be more Christian resources out there for specifically for Christian widowers.

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