Wednesday, October 24, 2012

A Note from Amanda

Last week on Lifeboat, Amanda posted the following note which I think is so very important for widows to realize.

This week, the enemy has come in with both barrels loaded lying to me…
  • did we do something wrong?
  • did Wade die before he fulfilled his purpose?
  • did he know how much I loved him??? 
---All the things that I have asked myself for a year. It’s been so confusing and so painful. 

But then, the Lord reminded me of something…
if our husbands had not fulfilled their purpose…they would still be here!!!!!!! 

God used their lives for His purpose…but get this…He still does. 

As much as I hate to say this, if Wade had not died, I would not be fulfilling all that God has for me. Wow! That just shocked me! 
I feel like He’s redirecting my (our) life for something…what is it? 

It may just be being a Godly widow! 
I want to have a purpose…I’m praying for a purpose…but the bottom line is…Jesus! 
It should all line up pointing to Him…What does He want?

I’m praying for us, that whatever it is, that He uses us to lead people to Christ! And that just like our husband’s lives weren’t in vain, ours wouldn’t be either! 
Love you, Blessin’s!
lifeboat2, Oct. 14, 2012

I really appreciated all her statements and could say so much about each one. But over the years what has helped me the most was her thought about
if our husbands had not fulfilled their purpose…they would still be here!!!!!!!  Grabbing hold of that truth will be a strong help on your journey through grief, my friend. ferree

And in Your book were all written
The days that were ordained for me
(Psalm 139:16 NASB)


  1. Amanda, what amazing wisdom the Lord has given you admist your pain and loss of your husband. It really touched me. The Lord will use us on our journey as a widow when we surrender to Him. Ive prayed and asked the Lord that my husbands death won't be in vain and as hard as it is, Ive seen various ones encouraged and brought closer to the Lord, including myself. God knows the big picture and we have to trust Him. May the Lord bless you on your journey.

  2. I loved these words of Amanda the first time I read them, and I loved reading them again. Understanding the things Amanda wrote about is so helpful in healing from grief.


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