tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post7394898980429879910..comments2024-03-12T10:27:41.130-04:00Comments on Widow’s Christian Place: Are Widows Invisible In Their Churches?Ferree Bowman Hardyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-16025702230415655342014-12-06T16:30:05.486-05:002014-12-06T16:30:05.486-05:00I don't see loopholes either, dear Anonymous. ...I don't see loopholes either, dear Anonymous. You bring up some excellent points!Ferree Bowman Hardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-76164327426917571482014-12-01T13:52:33.846-05:002014-12-01T13:52:33.846-05:00Ferree, The issue of children involved really has ...Ferree, The issue of children involved really has to grieve God's heart. I think that they forget that so often when the baby is baptized/dedicated to the Lord, there is almost always a question to the congregation/membership to be a part of that contribution o raise the children in the admonition of the Lord...I don't see loopholes for this pledge that people take. Then they wonder why the kids have behavioral problems and the church is quicker than anyone to brush them off to secular counseling and I know that can be beneficial but I also know that if some men would step up to an outing of fishing, or an hour of catch and an ice cream cone, it would go much further than "counseling". I am tired of their excuses...they don't like to hear our needs or frustrations.... think we are just single women --- but not all single women are feminist!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-47312895063464007912014-08-24T11:55:55.983-04:002014-08-24T11:55:55.983-04:00I found u whilst i was researching griefshare grou...I found u whilst i was researching griefshare groups. Thank u for your response...I appreciate the contact and info. God blessings.Trudiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16431087852407531550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-87569356363017439202014-08-21T20:52:45.410-04:002014-08-21T20:52:45.410-04:00Thank you all for your insightful comments. Each o...Thank you all for your insightful comments. Each one uncovers needs that get overlooked and forgotten. I think that's one of the hardest things about widowhood---feeling forgotten, and the reality of loneliness. Like the first comment stated---It is as if I died too. <br />Trudie highlights the loneliness that is caused by relocating---and this is a real problem too, as now the widow has not only lost her husband, but also her familiar home, her community, her friends, her church.... Trudie, I'd urge you to see if there's a GriefShare group nearby. Put your zipcode into the searchbox on their website for the nearest location. Also find out if any other Lifeboat members are in your area and maybe you could meet for lunch or coffee. And pray. Sometimes I feel kind of silly asking God for friends, but then I remember I can ask him to meet all my needs, and he does answer prayer. God loves you and will not fail. Here's the GriefShare website, and please let me know what you find, OK, Trudie? http://www.griefshare.org/Ferree Bowman Hardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-10990647267512070782014-08-21T12:38:38.513-04:002014-08-21T12:38:38.513-04:00I have been widowed for 22 months now. I sold our...I have been widowed for 22 months now. I sold our home and moved to our planned retirement location. In doing so, I have lost my wonderful church family that we both loved so much. No local churches offer a consistent women's group/support group for socializing or grief support. I am just lost and alone...my sister is still working and really doesn't understand my grieving "for so long". I am still seeking groups/churches/friends. Trudiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16431087852407531550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-52323379919739887892014-08-19T16:37:54.082-04:002014-08-19T16:37:54.082-04:00It saddens me also that one of the main functions ...It saddens me also that one of the main functions of the N.T. church is to help and alleviate widows. I'm not sure that scripture teaches anywhere for churches to fund a youth minister and entertain the youth and spend mega $$ on trips....etc.....and etc....<br />As Mother Teresa once said "I can't help or feed a million, but I can help someone" <br />There was only one Elijah and that was all the poor widow and her son needed to help her during the time of famine.<br />So may we trust God that He will send us that (special) one, in our most desperate of situations. RobinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-15853542239176415532014-08-18T13:38:04.178-04:002014-08-18T13:38:04.178-04:00Thank you again, Ferree, for addressing such an im...Thank you again, Ferree, for addressing such an important issue! Your post validates the need for widow-support and education in the churches on this topic. Many churches have singles groups, but widows need a deep sisterly love and support that are not addressed in such a general setting. S.E.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-59281098448221303822014-08-18T13:18:39.071-04:002014-08-18T13:18:39.071-04:00There is nothing at my Church for Widows. There is...There is nothing at my Church for Widows. There is Hope Ministers, and I finally got one into my second year of grieving. But other than that there is nothing for Widows. When I ask about it, they tell me, well there's the Singles Group. Really?!?!?! No Thank You. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07482105693738865311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-52868818036243496322014-08-18T09:59:42.048-04:002014-08-18T09:59:42.048-04:00It has been 4 years and 9 months since our pastor ...It has been 4 years and 9 months since our pastor spoke at my husband's graveside. I haven't heard from him nor anyone from the church since that day. It is as if I died too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com