tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post7134630922860863821..comments2024-03-25T05:22:40.086-04:00Comments on Widow’s Christian Place: How Long Does Mourning Last?Ferree Bowman Hardyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-72504479618630947972015-10-19T21:00:31.024-04:002015-10-19T21:00:31.024-04:00Dear Danyell, Thank you too for your comment today...Dear Danyell, Thank you too for your comment today. Don't be dismayed that grief takes time to heal. It's different for each person, but you can rest assured that it does heal. Life will never be the same, but it can still be very very good. <3 Ferree Bowman Hardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-13559183862283731802015-10-19T20:56:01.711-04:002015-10-19T20:56:01.711-04:00Dear Anonymous, My heart goes out to you and I wis...Dear Anonymous, My heart goes out to you and I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all go away. My first husband, Bruce, was in peak physical condition but he died of a brain aneurism which was totally unexpected and took him instantly. I was with him just in time to see him breathe his last breath, but it was hard to get over that huge shock---one instant he's with you, the next instant he's gone. .. <br />Some people say time heals all wounds, but that's not always true. Plus, the question is "how MUCH time?" How long does it last? Is there something wrong with you to still feel sad and lost much of the time even though it was four years ago? <br />My first word to you is this: relax. Chances are good that there's nothing really wrong with you. But now that you've begun to realize you want to be in a different emotional state, that means you're beginning to come to terms with your loss and resolve some of the grief. <br />I hear your plea for help, so I will offer 4 suggestions that can really make a difference. If you haven't already done so, start to attend a grief support group, especially one for Christian widows if you can find one in your community. It usually seems worse during the first few sessions when you go, so determine to stick with it for at least 4 weeks. Also, read a book about widowhood or grief in general and make notes on the pages when you read something that you can relate to. <br />With Thanksgiving coming up, practice "30 Days of Thanksgiving" in which you write down one thing to be thankful for each day. I know it might sound rather trite, but what have you got to lose? It's just one thing. <br />Also see if your church or community has any projects coming up in the next month or two that they need volunteers for, and become one of the best volunteers they ever had.<br />I don't want to say that doing all these things will totally resolve your grief, but I do think you'll be pretty surprised to see where you're at one month from now if you do them. Also consider joining one of my Lifeboat groups on Facebook. At the top of this blog you will see a How to Join a Lifeboat Support Group tab and the instructions are there. <br />I'll be praying for you, and I really hope to hear back from you soon. Ferree Bowman Hardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-84930081036301963262015-10-19T19:27:30.727-04:002015-10-19T19:27:30.727-04:00Someone once said I thought (wisely) ....
"y...Someone once said I thought (wisely) ....<br /><br />"you never get over it, you just get on with it" It has been 4 years and God has given me grace To accept this, the pain has subsided, but his absence is missed daily.<br /><br />My daughter had a break down Sunday crying,angry and said "I am mad at God, why did he take daddy"<br /><br />In his way and time only the Lord can heal our broken heart and spirit. For those unbearable days great grace is given for great grief.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-32699842076752443402015-10-19T11:01:52.566-04:002015-10-19T11:01:52.566-04:00I am starting into my 4th year and I still feel sa...I am starting into my 4th year and I still feel sad and lost much of the time. What is wrong with me?<br /><br />Does it have anything to do with the fact that he was young, healthy, he died suddenly and I found his cold, dead body on our couch?<br /><br />Someone help me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-68491375392823397462015-10-19T09:16:52.994-04:002015-10-19T09:16:52.994-04:00Very good post. Today makes 6 weeks since my husba...Very good post. Today makes 6 weeks since my husband passed away. I just asked myself this question this morning. Thank you for this post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006222808693988031noreply@blogger.com