tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post4781601122012758801..comments2024-03-25T05:22:40.086-04:00Comments on Widow’s Christian Place: Do You Open the Door Or Close the Door On Your Memories?Ferree Bowman Hardyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-33555023596154696762014-07-03T15:54:04.268-04:002014-07-03T15:54:04.268-04:00I have discovered that over time, the bad memories...I have discovered that over time, the bad memories fade away while the good memories have become more and more abundant, popping up when least expected. So much sweeter than the earlier feelings I felt and suffered through during the ambush days of raw sorrow. Posting loving remembrances on one's own Facebook wall is what FB is all about.Sure beats the one-way only political messages that I have had to scroll through. Some are just plain mean-spirited and their sources are questionable at best. Try using the option to place people with little regard to your expressions into another lesser used group, such as from "family" or 'friend" to "aquaintances". That way you can communicate what they like to hear and save those who care enough (close family & friends), into a supportive group for your conversation desires. "Proper" grieving is what brings comfort the mourner. I still post messages on my late husband's Facebook wall. July 4th is the date of our wedding anniversary :)Sheilanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-16729584959574414152014-07-01T08:19:16.466-04:002014-07-01T08:19:16.466-04:00Yes, how can one close the door? Yet some do. I...Yes, how can one close the door? Yet some do. I'm glad to hear that you've found ways to express and celebrate the memories, and in doing so you're transforming your surroundings with beauty. Please feel free to email some of the pictures to me at WCplace@gmail.com if you'd ever like to. I know we'd all love to see them and would appreciate your memories. AND you might inspire and encourage others to stir their talents and creativity too. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share your thoughts and experiences today! :) Ferree Bowman Hardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-12401002007142248592014-06-30T20:04:01.376-04:002014-06-30T20:04:01.376-04:00How can I close the door on the wonderful and not ...How can I close the door on the wonderful and not so wonderful memories we shared. I put together a photo/journal of our 36 years together. I love to take pictures, so I have many photos of the festive occasions and just of him around the house doing chores, outside shoveling snow and other candid shots. Also I have planted container plants in the yard he loved so well. I only used the yard to go to my car and back to the house. So now I am making his yard beautiful. I have also planted flowers in his work boots that he used to do part time landscaping at our church. I am trying to keep his memory alive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-22814583323600294592014-06-30T15:20:05.784-04:002014-06-30T15:20:05.784-04:00Thank you for commenting, Michele and Anon. We'...Thank you for commenting, Michele and Anon. We'll never forget---and it's a comfort to know that God will not either. Dear A, you're right---there's nothing wrong with a simple tribute. That caller was not helpful at all. Ferree Bowman Hardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10739485535852107104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-6280928445250627722014-06-30T09:30:16.944-04:002014-06-30T09:30:16.944-04:00I'm not sure if this illustration is out of co...I'm not sure if this illustration is out of context or not.... but<br />the Bible is full of remembering and speaking about the dead, I've never read in God's word that is wrong to mention the deceased or not speak about them. Many chapters in the Bible will start off by saying Remember Job or Remember Lot etc......However the Bible does make it plain that we should not try to contact the dead, seances, etc....<br />What bothers me is when you mention their name in a group or a setting sometimes you get looks like "you're not to speak about them or it's some type of taboo, that's what really bothers me.<br />This past Father's day my daughter put on FB a picture of her and her dad and said "love you and miss you"<br />I received a phone call not speaking or saying directly her name, but the caller said "you must get on with life" well we are getting on with life, and what is so wrong with a simple tribute. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3382629264175127167.post-82277020378734516012014-06-30T09:12:55.144-04:002014-06-30T09:12:55.144-04:00Grieving properly is getting all your emotions out...Grieving properly is getting all your emotions out. One needs to work through the emotions and memories. Shutting the door on memories keeps emotions in which is not good for metal or physical health. Even if I tried, I could not forget Joe. Michele'sJoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04855919145786605453noreply@blogger.com