Tuesday, October 19, 2021

For Widows Groups---Now What?

Hello everyone! 

A newly formed widows group asked me for suggestions on what they should do after they finish going through my book, Postcards from the Widows' Path. They're finishing up this week, and with the holidays coming --- well, it just doesn't seem right to end yet. 

All groups will eventually end, no matter what kind they are, but for widows it's a great encouragement and comfort to meet through Thanksgiving, Christmas and the New Year. Yet, it's an extra busy time too, so what are some options?

Let's brainstorm: 

Keep meeting once a week. 

1). You could go through the book, "The Empty Chair--Handling Grief on Holidays and Special Occasions," by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert C. DeVries. It has 5 short chapters---perfect to fit in with some breaks for the holidays. 

2).Or you could meet more informally. Base discussions on any of these g r e a t ideas!

  • hearing each others' stories
  • Read aloud and discuss short articles or blog posts for widows. 
  • Or have everyone write out some questions about widowhood. Put them in a jar and draw one or two at random to discuss each week. 

Meet for special events.

1). Planning a Christmas party is great fun. Ask for a volunteer to host it in her home. (Homes are so cozy and wonderful for true fellowship!) Everyone bring a favorite food to share for the meal. Or if you don't want a whole meal, do a Cookie Exchange or just appetizers or dessert. Set a dollar limit on the gift exchange if you have one, or do an ornament exchange instead. 

2). Attend an event or two together. Here are some ideas:

  • A church Christmas concert
  • Christmas light show or live nativity
  • Surviving The Holidays by GriefShare. See if a local church will be hosting this wonderful outreach: Just type your zip code in the search box on this website: https://www.griefshare.org/

3). Help out as a group (or just 2 or 3 of you) at a mission or soup kitchen. Going together will be far better than spending the day alone. 

4). Go to a movie or host a movie night in your own home. If you pop your popcorn the old-fashioned way use lower heat and coconut oil---yum!!! (Google for a recipe).  

5). Help each other decorate (for those who want to), some of widows are lucky to have enough desire to plus in the lights for a table-top tree; others find comfort in keeping their traditions---there's no right or wrong way. Maybe have an un-decorating party too! That's a hurdle for many! I powered through my first few Christmases, but wanted to skip it entirely for several years! (I finally did, and it helped a lot, but that's just me. Everyone is different).

Well, I hope these ideas have gotten you all to thinking. What ideas would you suggest? What will you do with the holidays at your house this year? Please be especially sensitive to new widows in your area. Pray for them and reach out to them as God leads you. Holidays can be really hard, but they can also be poignant, sacred, and breathtakingly beautiful.

God Bless You One & All! ❤

Sunday, October 17, 2021

Is It Time to Call for Some Help?

Hi everyone, 

Do you keep hitting a brick wall when you try to move forward into the next chapter of life--you don’t even know where to start, you feel lost, full of doubt and worries, yet you KNOW that God has a purpose for you? Or do you feel defeated by the same old, same old all the time---losing some weight, getting ready for Christmas, balancing life and work, getting organized…? Maybe we should talk. You know I've been widowed, and you know that no one understands a widow like someone who's been there. Yet there's more....

I’m in coach training! After a stress-filled summer, (I still haven't been able to move to NY where my husband is working), the Lord gave me this opportunity. This kind of coaching is perfectly described in Proverbs 20:5---I'm trained to draw out the purposes and motives, the God-given dreams and desires of a person's heart, to help them get on the path to fulfilling them by God's grace.

The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters,
    but one who has insight draws them out.

It’s been intense, tho! Right now I’m entering an internship. So I am looking for a widow interested in devoting 5 weeks to focus on rebuilding her life---finding the answers to some of the struggles...finding

that fulfillment. We would meet online or in person once a week between Nov. 5th - Dec. 15th. 


Please email me and briefly tell me about a goal you might like to work on. From there, I will contact 3-4 of you for a free consultation. You’ll get to know more about it, and I can answer your questions. 

I can only gift one free 5-coaching sessions package, but I’ll offer the other 2-3 of you an amazing discount on a coaching journey after my graduation.

Why not give it a try? Pray about it, OK? This is really an amazing opportunity. Just contact me at wcplace@gmail.com with a sentence or two of a goal you’d like to reach before Christmas. 

We’d meet via video chat (like Zoom or Duo) so be sure you have a computer or phone with a camera. And it’d be once a week for an hour, from around Nov. 5 - Dec. 15th. 

Is it time for you to call for some help? I hope to hear from you! ❤ ferree

Monday, October 4, 2021

Wisdom of Widows

This following little story has been around for a few years but I just came across it yesterday. It shows the wisdom that widows can share. The world needs to know! And sometimes widows need to hear it too. Not because we're not grieving enough, but rather because we still have people in our life who we can love. Don''t waste your sorrows, my friends. Love much! Make some "chili" for the people who are still with you today. Life is precious, they are precious, and so are you. ❤, ferree

 Make the Chili

A good friend of mine unexpectedly lost her husband. A couple of months later we were going for a run together, chatting about nothing. She asked me what my dinner plans were. I told her my hubby wanted chili, but I didn’t feel like stopping at the store. We ran on for a few more minutes when she quietly said, “make the chili."

It took me a few minutes to realize we were no longer taking about dinner. It was about going out of your way to do something for someone you love because at any moment, they could unexpectedly be taken from you.

So today, I’m sharing with you the wisdom handed to me by my dear friend. I’ve thought of it many times since that day. The next time someone you love wants you to go for a walk, watch some football or play a board game, just put your phone down and give them your undivided attention. Just do it. Make the chili. 

By Pam Berg) 

Friday, September 17, 2021

Do You Like to Write? Free Book!

      I'm thinking about a Thanksgiving article for my "Widows Path" column in Plain Values magazine--and I think my readers would love to hear from some of you.

  • What are you thankful for this year?
  • How have you grown spiritually because of your suffering and/or the loneliness of widowhood?
  • In what ways has God shown up this year?
  • How have your values and perspectives changed?
  • I'm not saying we're thankful that our husband's are gone, but rather---what breath of thanks has God awakened within you this year?
Select one of these questions, write a paragraph or two (approx 100 - 150 words) and send it to my email wcplace@gmail.com If I select yours for the article I'll send you a free copy of my book, Postcards from the Widows' Path! But hurry, entries must be received in 2 days---by Monday, Sept. 20. I look forward to reading yours!

The following link takes you to my monthly column in Plain Values in case you're interested.

Or view the Plain Values website to see some of their other articles: Plain Values. Thanks!

❤ ferree

Monday, September 13, 2021

Stand in the Gap for Widows

Hi everyone,
Here's a tried and true widows ministry we should all get behind and promote. It's based in Oklahoma, but has branched out to some other states. If you've been helped by Stand In The Gap, I'd love to hear from you! Please make a comment here or email me at wcplace@gmail.com. If you want to reach the people at Stand In The Gap, it's best to use the link to their website. Just scroll down a few lines and you'll see it. 

Here is a video to share:

Here's their website: Stand in the Gap Ministries. And, as usual, if you receive this by email and the video does not show up, just click on the TITLE of this post. That should take you to the actual blog site where you can view it.  ❤ ferree

Friday, September 10, 2021

9/11 Widow Jennifer Sands on the 20th Anniversary of 9/11

Hi Everyone, 
(On a personal note, I have to tell you that Jennifer wrote a beautiful intro to my book, Postcards from the Widows Path. We've met several times and I always love our conversations. I hope you'll get to hear her speak or read her books some time. OH! You could listen to her right now in this video!) 

Jennifer Sands has an amazing message for the terrorists who murdered her husband and so many others, because she knows her amazing Savior! Gave me goosebumps!  ❤   ferree

 If this arrives in your email without Jennifer's video, click the title to get to the blog itself so you can view it. Use the same link to find the tab for my bookstore in case you need a copy of my book, Postcards from the Widows' Path. Thank you!